Re: She left me
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The only thing I can say is hang in there. No one can really give you advice in this situation, as you mentioned, because who are we to say what you should do? Nevertheless, from the sounds of your post, your wife has probably already made up her mind, which I know is tough. I sincerely hope you'll be able to pick up and move on.
One thing I learned from my parent's divorce, is that while it was painful and sucked at the time, I think both of them are better off now, years later, because they got out of a situation similar to yours, where they had fallen out of love.
Good luck with your situation, and kudos for airing this out in the open - that takes a lot of strength in and of itself.
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Very nice post Nolan.
GA - I'm really sorry to hear about this. Your mind is going to be rushing towards every possibility - but don't blame yourself for this in anyway. If your wife has fallen out of love with you, barring any extreme circumstances or behavior on your part... I don't think there's much you could have done to change the course of your relationship. It's likely the inevitable outcome of the dynamic you shared with her for many years... and while it's very depressing, it does say something about how compatible you are for each other going-forward.
That being said, take it one step at a time, and see where further counseling / discussion with her may lead.
They say there are 3 components to a successful marriage: 1) familial-friendship love; 2) romantic love; 3) commitment. I think you have to ask yourself how likely it is all 3 will be there in the future with her.
Best of luck,
-Al
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