[cognito20]

My wife is 5 foot 5, 310 pounds, and I honestly could not care less. I love her regardless of how much or how little she weighs. As far as sexual attractiveness, it's not a problem for me since I've never found large women unattractive....it's the skinny Kate Moss-types that I've always thought were disgusting. I'd rather bang a pillow than a twig any day.

I would like her to lose weight for one reason only...that it may cause serious health problems somewhere down the line that would take her away from me sooner than she should go. If you think that sounds sappy or that I'm whipped, oh well. You're entitled to your opinion. Outside of my immediate family, she's the only person I've ever met in my life who I know has my best interests at heart, and who loves me for myself. I dated normal-sized, maybe even a few "classically beautiful" women for years before I met Becky, and I noticed 2 things that gradually removed any "anti-fat" bias I might have once had:

1.) In retrospect, the sex wasn't noticeably better, and was in many ways worse because a lot of the "attractive" women tend to lay there like an log on quaaludes, and,
2.) No matter how good the sex is, you have to also spend the -other- 23 and a half hours of the day with them.

My point? There are a hell of a lot of things more important to me in choosing a partner than the size of their waistline. I'll love her if she gains 200 pounds, and I'll love her if she loses 200. I'm extremely happy with the woman I ended up with, and the reasons why have nothing to do with size.

--Scott