[Aces McGee]

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No, what possible benefit could come from that? I have had pleutonic relationships with many girls where they say stuff like that, they are just venting. If she didn't like him, she wouldn't be with him, and if she wanted to be with me, she would have gone after me and not him a while. I'm sure when he is frustrated with her, he says things he woudln't want her to hear either.

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I've had platonic (edited, thanks El D) relationships like this with girls, too. The difference is that I'm closer friends with the girl than the guy. Usually, the girl is my friend, and the guy becomes my friend after he starts dating the girl. If I'm mistaken and you are actually closer friends with the girl than the guy, my apologies.

For some things, it's not a big deal. I have a very close friend who used to lie on occasion. Not about anything major; he'd just make stuff up (he doesn't any more). His girlfriend mentioned it to me once. That's fine to talk about; it's an obvious (and admitted) personality trait of his. However, she knows what is appropriate and inappropriate for us to talk about regarding him.

Not everything about their relationship is off-limits, but certain things are; and the stuff she's said to you about your friend definitely should be taboo, in my opinion.

You really want to avoid being the confidante/sounding board on *both* sides of a relationship. It's not fair to the participants, and you could find yourself in the middle of a hellacious sh*tstorm pretty quickly.

-McGee