Re: why boobs?
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Isn't there still some chance of breast growth at 19 yet? I'd honestly wait a couple of years if you feel that's the course of action.
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My mom told me how skinny she used to be when she was a kid, and how mercilessly she was teased about it.
She always felt kind of doomed to be flat chested. It wasn't until she was about 23 and 24 that her breasts really started to come in, and she wound up actually great breasts -- 38 inches, I think. But she never thought it would happen, and neither did anybody else.
It works that way sometimes. I still grew in tiny amounts until I was almost 30.
If you really feel psychologically at a loss, then surgery wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you. I'm sure it would have an immensely positive effect on most men you bump into.
A lot of men aren't crazy about the looks of fake breasts, but that's because they are often done to look really fake or the type of technique used leaves some scary scars. By the time you let any guy get his hands or whatever on your fake breasts, I'm sure he'll be either still excited about them or more than willing to "forgive and forget." I doubt more than the tiniest percentage of guys would "stand on principle" and refuse to either screw you or be a boyfriend/husband just because you had a boob job, unless they just really don't like whatever "type" they think you are in the first place. Heck, I predict you might even get stretches of being angry at men who don't know why you're so angry, just because you start to see them start falling all over you just because you got a boob job.
But...you may not be done growing for a while.
And I think when women look at things to improve their looks, they often look at the wrong thing -- make-up, shoes, even boobs. The first two impress women more than men, and don't make an ugly person any prettier. The third can matter, but not be the main problem.
A girl in good shape can wear anything and any guy worth a damn won't care, because she'll still be hot to him. And I've heard women talking about these things laugh and sneer down the value of a good personality too many times to count. I've also read different madams saying the girls who make the most money usually aren't the prettiest -- they have the best personalities and appeal to the guys on more than just the level of meat.
If you can't keep yourself in decent shape, get a good personality and a sense of humor, and make sex and your relationship with your partner a fun part of your life(not a chore, or a bargaining tool to get you your way), you'll always be well behind all the girls who can. Nobody "deserves" a relationship or attention from the opposite sex. A lot of the girls who guys are attracted to, they just want to screw and dump as fast as possible. Who wouldn't?
Anyway, if you want to be a keeper, be someone who takes care of their business on multiple levels, and who you could imagine people would want to be around. If you're a grouch, a whiner, a manipulator, a nag, or a deppressive, your appeal might be increased tremendously with big boobs, but it still won't be lasting, and guys will still outgrow you when they've seen the boobs "X" number of times.
So don't expect boobs to solve all that many problems.
And remember, you're only 19. Most guys your age are jerks, just like they are at any age; but at 19 its guys' time to go wild and be stupid. Some of them won't grow up for a long time, and anyway growing up isn't their biggest priority now, nor is a relationship. Don't feel too bad about being overlooked by guys who don't have their heads screwed on straight yet; that's the norm for this stage of life. The last thing your boobs are going to do is make any guy smarter, kinder, and less jerky. Hell, they might make them even worse. You know how they say that luck = opportunity + preparation? Keep making the best of yourself and you'll find a guy, and like yourself better until you do, and whenever you don't have one. If you don't like yourself or make of yourself someone you could admire, or try to force relationships to happen, it's going to be a much harder and more miserable process.
Enjoy your time to be the person you want to be at this age. There's a lot of freedom to live a hell of a lot of different types of life. Eventually there will be many guys who want to be part of it. Bigger boobs might rush things a little, but maybe not in the right way, and maybe rushing unnaturally isn't the greatest thing. Looking for love in all the wrong places is a heartbreaker. Give the boys time to grow up, grow up and live a little yourself. If you keep making yourself a good person with a good attitude and personality, you'll wind up as something pretty good, and sooner or later somebody will spot it, and who you are and are becoming will probably get you a better guy than you might have ever thought you'd wind up with. With or without big boobs, don't try to "force" anything.
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