fight with gf, judgement on my actions?
 

OK.

So my girlfriend and I had one of those nonsense fights. She says (in response to something I said)
"thats because you clearly have no idea what you're talking about"
I say
"That may be so, but you CLEARLY started this fight"
she says
"Well you should CLEARLY shut the [censored] up"

I figure a line has been crossed and I need to do something here. What do I do next OOT?

(btw this has already happened, I will post my line of action after responses)

Re: fight with gf, judgement on my actions?
 

kick her in the baby maker.

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Was she right that you clearly didn't know what you were talking about?

Either way isn't your first line pretty much a nonsequitur?

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When a woman crosses the cursing line with me, I ususally just end the conversation right there. "That's not cool. If you can't be civil with me, I'm not going to talk to you right now. See you later." [leaves]

If this is impossible, you could say, "That's messed up that you said that. Why don't we both stop talking for a while until we calm down." [sit in silence]

If I didn't say something like this, i'd inevitably say something a lot worse back...escalation is bad.

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Sorry further details, yes I suck at telling a story :

She was pissed off because her brother was hanging out at a coffee shop alot? and said only freaks hang out at a coffeeshop? I told her "well, whatever makes him happy"

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Throw her out and don't talk to her for a couple days. She'll then try to make up. Once your made up, she'll pick another fight. This is a test. Don't get angry, just throw her out again. Rinse and repeat untill she is properly trained.

The key is to never show an change in emotion. Just calmly ask her to leave. If she doesn't grab her by the arm and put her outside. But do it calmly.

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Sorry further details, yes I suck at telling a story :

She was pissed off because her brother was hanging out at a coffee shop alot? and said only freaks hang out at a coffeeshop? I told her "well, whatever makes him happy"

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Is her family name Tribiani?

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Sorry further details, yes I suck at telling a story :

She was pissed off because her brother was hanging out at a coffee shop alot? and said only freaks hang out at a coffeeshop? I told her "well, whatever makes him happy"

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Is her family name Tribiani?

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I laughed. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

OP: You should immediately break up with her and bang some coffeeshop freak.

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Is her family name Tribiani?

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hahahaha



OP: Laugh at her potty mouth and tell her she's crazy, go grab a beer.

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Spit in her face

OR

say " Don't you talk to me like, I ain't above hittin' a woman."

That usually will shut them up.

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Your girlfriend clearly needs to pull her head out of her ass.

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Reach back like a pimp and slap the ho.

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Reach back like a pimp and slap the ho.

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exactly. The taste of blood in their mouth usually helps them remember their place.

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Bend her over your desk and have vigorous makeup sex.
Pass out.
Rinse and repeat.

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Isn't this the part where you, like, burst out laughing and start making out?

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Tell her youre going to blow her up with a pumpkin bomb

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This might be the lamest fight I've ever seen.

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do nothing. Stew about it for weeks.

Post to OOT. Get funny responses.

think to yourself, yeah, I shoulda done that.

Weep quietly, holding a pillow.

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say " Don't you talk to me like, I ain't above hittin' a woman."

That usually will shut them up.

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I laughed. Kind of wish I hadn't...

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OK.

So my girlfriend and I had one of those nonsense fights. She says (in response to something I said)
"thats because you clearly have no idea what you're talking about"
I say
"That may be so, but you CLEARLY started this fight"
she says
"Well you should CLEARLY shut the [censored] up"

I figure a line has been crossed and I need to do something here. What do I do next OOT?

(btw this has already happened, I will post my line of action after responses)

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What stands out to me is that you two are no longer discussing the issue at hand and are just trading insults. This is not healthy or productive.

My response would be to tell her to let me know when she was ready to continue discussing the issues at hand and leave/terminate the conversation.

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do nothing. Stew about it for weeks.

Post to OOT. Get funny responses.

think to yourself, yeah, I shoulda done that.

Weep quietly, holding a pillow.

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Standard.

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I'd chop her head off and feed it to homeless people for thanksgiving. But that's just me.

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Just so you know, she had a pretty good comeback there. You're definitely not as good at fighting as she is. Next time work out some insults in advance.
Maybe something along the lines of "Well, the jerk store called..."

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With such an intellectual and complicated fight as this one, my only possible response would be to tell her that I faked all my orgasms.

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Yeah, that's the kind of thing I'm talking about!

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OK.

So my girlfriend and I had one of those nonsense fights. She says (in response to something I said)
"thats because you clearly have no idea what you're talking about"
I say
"That may be so, but you CLEARLY started this fight"
she says
"Well you should CLEARLY shut the [censored] up"

I figure a line has been crossed and I need to do something here. What do I do next OOT?

(btw this has already happened, I will post my line of action after responses)

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You both STFU and hurry back to your high school geometry class. Pass notes about it in the hall between 5th and 6th period, then make out on the stairs by the gym after school until the bus comes to take you home.

Jesus!!!

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(btw this has already happened, I will post my line of action after responses)

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Going off what I have seen you say in this thread I'm willing to bet whatever your line was, you handled it poorly.

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This isn't a fight, she's just pissed, got a little angry and said FSCK. You should hear my wife's mouth, like an atheist pirate.

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I said "Yeah, maybe I should" and signed off. I came back online half an hour later. She msg'd me about some random thing (she was making a CD?) and didn't mention the 'incident' at all. I bitched her for a few minutes, telling her she's never allowed to talk to me like that, etc.. She didn't apologize so I said
"why haven't you even apologized"
she said
"I don't know I'm fuxed up" and apologized (that sucks that I had to tell her to apologize).


A few things stand out to me from that incident; I think it is very important I draw a line here and never let her speak to me in this manner. I'm not sure exactly what I would do if she did this again but it's probably along the lines of not talk to her for a couple days? / a week? Or cancel plans we have together, letting her know that is why "I don't feel like seeing you".

I do care for her a good deal and want our relationship to continue. Most of the time we have alot of fun together and I want to keep our relationship where it is and not let it degenerate into fighting alot, so I need to give her the subconcious message that I won't tolerate this sort of behaviour. I don't want to over-react here and I think it is definitely best to never think of this again, which I can't imagine will be trouble as it is such a small incident.

I was most intrigued by
"Throw her out and don't talk to her for a couple days. She'll then try to make up. Once your made up, she'll pick another fight. This is a test. Don't get angry, just throw her out again. Rinse and repeat untill she is properly trained.

The key is to never show an change in emotion. Just calmly ask her to leave. If she doesn't grab her by the arm and put her outside. But do it calmly.
"

This looks like a good line (when we are in person) and mirros something things black guy told me in jail once.

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This isn't a fight, she's just pissed, got a little angry and said FSCK. You should hear my wife's mouth, like an atheist pirate.

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note, swearing, even hardcore swearing, doesn't bother me in the least. Even being told to 'fvck off' or even stfu in a joking manner is fine. Being told to stfu in a serious way is across the line.

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I said "Yeah, maybe I should" and signed off. I came back online half an hour later. She msg'd me

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Did I miss something? I was unaware that this occurred online.

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WTF this fight wasn't even in person?

GEY

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I said "Yeah, maybe I should" and signed off. I came back online half an hour later. She msg'd me

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Did I miss something? I was unaware that this occurred online.

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I thought I included that in my fourth post but I didn't, although the part thats says I suck telling the story certainly is accurate. Yes it happened over IM.

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lame

I hate to just quote, but:
 

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lame

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Didn't you get banned for making stupid FYPs?

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<font color="red"> ON [censored] LINE JESUS CHRIST THIS IS NOW GAY!!</font>

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No but I did get banned for asking information about filesharing in P&amp;G.

I'm failing to see what the big difference between her saying something to me when she is beside me and her saying it to me over a computer. Would it be different over the telephone? Perhaps many of you do not have experience with having or keeping a girlfriend for a year plus but it is important to talk to them on a regular basis and they are not always in the same city as you.

For all those with nothing but negativity, I wish you all to go screw a goat. For anyone who has anything productive to say, and preferably some actual experience with women outside of the relationship between you and your porn, I would love hear it.

Thank you.

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you also forgot to meantion that by gf you meant internet girlfriend.

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This thread is worthless without a recap of how it began earlier on the little yellow bus.