my pastor divorced his wife and married a sophomore
 

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ive gone to a private school my whole life, and one of the youth pastors at my elementary school tranferred to my middle/highschool at the same time i transferred. So needeless to say i had grown close to this man.

It took a few years for me to realize his true personality. My senior year in highschool he divorced his wife of ten years(which as a youth pastor is a big deal in itself) and decided to quit my privte school. So as being one of his best friends, considering i have been in multiple fantasy basketball/baseball/football leagues as well as accompanying him to several mlb as well as nfl games. He was also my varsity baseball coach for two years, so needless to say i thought i knew him very well. then i was utterly shocked by the news that he divorced his wife of 10 years to marry a sophomore from my highschool who i also knew very well, i know this never went public but i am really sure that if someone actually put together a solid timeline and story of this that it would actually make a great story, however the private school i went too will not let anyone leak the story for fear that they will be "blackballed" from the community which is very prestigous, considering we all signed legal contracts in order to attend the school which keeps anyone from making public statements about the school or any incrimenating statements about school officials withough school consent, and the school will make no official statement on the issue, i finally present my question, is there anyway i can make this public and exploit my "prestigous" school? considering the sophomore that married my teacher had complpete parental consent. teacher=35, student=16.

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thought i knew my pastor, i guess not, he married a sophomore in my highschool. we all had so sign legal contracts saying we would not make any official statemens or any increminating statement about school officials without the schools consent, so im wondering whats my play now. teahers age 35, students age 16 w/ parental consent, they have been married for two years.

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Instead of posting this here why didn't you just send it to a local news station complete with details if you wanted to blow this story up.

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Just send it to a news station anonymously. Duh.

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Ex-wife probably wasn't putting out.

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im bounded to a 30 year(way overly excessive) legal contract by my highschool which my parents signed in order for me to attend the school, so im kind of concerned by being traced through ip ect. if you have a foolproof way of me being able to do this please let me know because i want to bring this to the publics interest because i feel this is much worse than a teacher having sex with a student type of sterotypical case, i know there is no legal action that can be taken due to the parental consent that was given unless im wrong. so if you have a sugestion please let me know. im not too internet savv.

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Fair play imo, she prob has a much tighter vag.

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this dude knows how to run [censored].

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paul-b
that was kind of one of his explanations for how this was right, he said he and his wife were never right for each other and that is why they never had a child together, he said they knew eventually they would get a divorce and thats why the never had a child so they were never always tied to each other. i didnt really believe it because his ex was smoking hot at least an 8 on oot so i kinda doubted that excuse

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Siouxbrew,

You take being a scumbag to completely new levels. If you do this I hope it comes back to haunt you in horrible ways. I'd tell you to get on with your life but obviously you don't have one so that option is out the window.

ps, pics of the sophomore?

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adsman
how am i a scumbag, by trying to bring this disturbing issue to light, or by not acting on it till now?
do you have children? if so imagine someone twice your daughters age marrying her. and tell me where i am the scumbag. sorry i think your the scumbag for not seeing how disturbing this is.

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adsman
the sophomore was mabey a 6 compared to at least 8 of his exwife. but i will not post pics unless there is a major demand for it i.e over 150 queries about it.

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adsman
how am i a scumbag, by trying to bring this disturbing issue to light, or by not acting on it till now?
do you have children? if so imagine someone twice your daughters age marrying her. and tell me where i am the scumbag. sorry i think your the scumbag for not seeing how disturbing this is.

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Why don't you just mind your own business and stay the hell out of their lives. And what are you trying to say here? That the girls father doesn't even know she's married? If you take this to the press you are going to be ruining a fair few peoples lives for no purpose other than your own personal desire to see "justice" done.

Which would make you king of the scumbags in my book, buddy.

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Judging by the spelling and grammar you use, I dare to say that your school isn't as "prestigous" as you think.

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obviousally if i really wanted to take this to the press i would have over two years ago, thats not really my main goal, i guess my op was kind of the wrong message, i guess if i could ammend it i would rather see how most people feel about this sitution. and her father definitly knows about the marriage he OK it. i really dont even have to option to go to the press based on the earlier facts i presented, i just thought this topic could start some conversation. plus i still talk and hang out with this man so i really have no interest in "ratting" him out, im just curious if most find this as acceptable.

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It's the pastor who should have minded his own business, instead he chooses to do something unconscionable and abuses his power over a young impressionable female, ruining her life in the process. He likely committed a crime as well at some point.

Both he and school with their catholic like coverup of child abuse deserve to have the whistle blown. The girl - well it's better she realizes now what a [censored] up sleazebag she fell for than at 25 when the best part of her life is behind her.

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is this "pastor" named david sklansky?

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pics nowssss please

You said her parents consented so whats your problem? As mentionted above its not really your business and not everyone has the same views as you.

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ytf
it is prestigous, does that mean i was top of my class? or that i claim to be prestigous? apprently thats what you thought i meant, it wasnt. feel free to correct my grammar if that makes you feel like a bigger person, but unless you have nothing pertinent to say i would rather not have you level my thread.
thanks
siouxbrew

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You should try and take a valuable lesson from this. Learn that peoples private lives are exactly that - private. It is not your place to judge their perceived failings. If this man has been a role model for you then I'm sorry. Try not to place people to high on a pedestal. That way they won't disappoint you too much when they fall off. If you really have a problem with this in a personal sense then talk openly about it to him. Give him a chance to present his side of the story. I know that if I were him i would appreciate this.

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It's the pastor who should have minded his own business, instead he chooses to do something unconscionable and abuses his power over a young impressionable female, ruining her life in the process. He likely committed a crime as well at some point.

Both he and school with their catholic like coverup of child abuse deserve to have the whistle blown. The girl - well it's better she realizes now what a [censored] up sleazebag she fell for than at 25 when the best part of her life is behind her.

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QFT

Those with psychological, physical or economic power over others abuse that power for their own ends? [img]/images/graemlins/shocked.gif[/img]

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lebowski
he is not sklansky

bc
never said everyone had the same views as me, i simply want to see everyone elses view on this. apparently yours is clear. pedophilia is ok if the parents ok it. i guess i wanted to see if others had this view or if it was just me that thought it was weird and wrong.

phil
i agree with almost everything you said except that i am not catholic, technically my school was "non-denominational" most closlely related bapsist if you had to clssify it

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If you aren't smart enough to figure out how to send this story to a local news station anonymously, then how could you get in to a "prestigious" private school?

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lebowski
he is not sklansky

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lol?

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You should try and take a valuable lesson from this. Learn that peoples private lives are exactly that - private. It is not your place to judge their perceived failings. If this man has been a role model for you then I'm sorry. Try not to place people to high on a pedestal. That way they won't disappoint you too much when they fall off. If you really have a problem with this in a personal sense then talk openly about it to him. Give him a chance to present his side of the story. I know that if I were him i would appreciate this.

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i was actually the only person other than the dean of students that he called a personal meeting with. and i definitly had a long 4+ hour meeting with him at his house on this very issue, so we definitly had a very close and very personal relationship so it really was not his personal life when he invited me into it. I definitly gave him the benefit of the doubt and was open to his explination as he gave it to him. I believe this is why he still has an open relationship with. however you are correct when those you place on a pedestal fall it is very difficult to see why and accept the reasons they succumbed to, that is why i want an objective perspective on the issue.

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If you aren't smart enough to figure out how to send this story to a local news station anonymously, then how could you get in to a "prestigious" private school?

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sirtimo
thanks for reading beyond the op. i enjoyed your ridiculous thoughtful post, btw if you would like to compare gpa's i would be glad to.

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dude you know the answer is NO this is not right. But your original question was how to expose this. I think you should seek professional therapy or talk to mommy & daddy

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Jesus Christ, how the hell can you want an objective persepective on this issue when you don't provide information such as this from the beginning? Not to forget that your post was almost unreadable. I mean, a 15 line sentence for chrissakes? How old are you anyway?

Probably 16, am I right? Which would make prefect sense.

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close but not quite right, im 20. sorry it was unreadable that was not my intention. why is it not believable to request an objective response. I am only able see the subjective perspective of the situation because i know him personally. I guess if others see the fact that a pastor who divorced his wife and married his student is legitimate i will drop my case. i just really dont see that as legitimate call me crazy.

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I dont really get it. So the girl is an idiot but she is still in love with this pastor guy. I doubt much good will come out of this. You should have talked to your friend BEFORE.

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close but not quite right, im 20. sorry it was unreadable that was not my intention. why is it not believable to request an objective response. I am only able see the subjective perspective of the situation because i know him personally. I guess if others see the fact that a pastor who divorced his wife and married his student is legitimate i will drop my case. i just really dont see that as legitimate call me crazy.

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omg
first, re-read from the very beginning..b/c you are missing your own freakin point
second, stfu b/c noone thinks that what this guy did is right = /thread
third, you need to go back to this sweetass school and stay long enough to learn a lot more to survive in the world, esp if OOT is eating you alive. and dude, i'm the nice one

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that was one of the problems. I went to talk to him after he quit my highschool not really knowing why he did. The first thing I found out was he was getting a divorce, which at my highschool probably would have forced him to resign in iteslf. I did not know right away that the reason was to marry the sophomore in my highschool. the first word that i heard they were getting married was when i heard they flew up to north dakota (apprently they have less strict laws on minors getting married) and were getting married that day. so i was not able to talk to him before the fact. So i really did not have a chance to discuss this issue with him before it happened.

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WAIT, i have a new theroy!!!!! Sh-t it just dawned on me what is the actual nuts & bolts of this f'ed up situation!

1. OP is very close with said Pastor
2. OP is 20 but acts 16 (per Ads!!!!!)
3. Pastor can only relate to 16 year olds- thus his wife was way too old for him mentally
4. Pastor must LOVE being annoyed by teenager stupidity thus the best friendship w/OP and marrying another that must be a real freakin nightmare of a gal

yeah??? props for aladare?? [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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This guy is a sick player. Not only does he convince a 14 year old girl to marry him, he also convinces her parents that its a good idea. Wtf, he should be working for the PUA wbesites.

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I'm no lawyer... wait, I am... and I'm pretty sure your parents can't bind you with a confidentiality agreement they signed when you were a minor.

So, pics?

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im bounded to a 30 year(way overly excessive) legal contract by my highschool which my parents signed in order for me to attend the school, so im kind of concerned by being traced through ip ect.

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First of all the word is bound, not bounded. I find it amusing that you wish to compare GPA's with other posters when your own grammar and general use of the English language is so appalling.

Secondly, your OP asks us on our opinions of how you can get this to the press without being found out, obviously due to the fact that you're a snivelling coward as well as illiterate. It mentions nothing about our own personal opinions on this unusual liason. I have an opinion but I won't give it as I'm sure that there is more information that you haven't disclosed yet here.

Now it turns out that you're not even in school anymore. This means that you've been stewing over this for some time, (two years in fact by the information posted). The only reason that I can think of is that you had the hots for the girl but the older guy snuck in and nicked off with her. Your own personal rage has built up to the point where you want to out them publicly but do not even possess the intelligence to know how to go about this.

Quite amusing in a sad way.

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im bounded to a 30 year(way overly excessive) legal contract by my highschool which my parents signed in order for me to attend the school, so im kind of concerned by being traced through ip ect. if you have a foolproof way of me being able to do this please let me know because i want to bring this to the publics interest because i feel this is much worse than a teacher having sex with a student type of sterotypical case, i know there is no legal action that can be taken due to the parental consent that was given unless im wrong. so if you have a sugestion please let me know. im not too internet savv.

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Send the station an anonymous letter. No way that is traceable.

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Tell the truth. You were actually home schooled, right?

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this 'pastor' sounds like a dirt bag; child molestor.

while it is very possible that dateline will catch up to him at some point in the future...i don't think you can count on that.

anonymous letter to media...or post your school name and city here and someone from OOT will probably do the dirty work for you by forwarding a link to this thread.

as for the contract- minors aren't bound by contracts.

also:

do you really think a school is going to 'sue' you and/or your family because you leaked a story to the media about an employee and youth pastor who has just married a sophomore student from the school??

that would have law suit written all over it. no contract can prevent you from reporting what you believe is a crime.

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Sounds like an upgrade imo.

Btw, didn't read the OP.

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Isn't it obvious he picked his child bride from marryourdaughter.com, but they just happened to live in the same town.

I also feel some lingering resentment from the OP towards the pastor, I think he stole your girl.

For real, I agree that this is some legalized form of pedophilia, but if the girl, the pastor, and her parents don't have a problem why should you and me?