What’s my play?
 

Soooo… I started a new job about four months ago. When I stared I recognized one of the guys that I work with from the casino. We chatted for a bit and have run into each other out side of work a few times. About a month and a half ago he invited me to meet up with him at the Casino. We meet up grab a drink chat a bit and then take our seats. We played for a few hours and then he gets a call from his buddy. He invites me to a bar with him and his friends. I say sure and to make a long story short I end up having breakfast with him Saturday morning.

We have been “hanging out” on the weekends for the last month and a bit. We don’t really chat at work other then the standard “hi” “how are you” crap. This last weekend we didn’t see each other (he was busy) and next weekend he is out of town.

I need help OOT! I don’t really care if we are dating or not but I have no idea what is going on. I just need a rough idea. How do I ask him wtf? Without sounding like a crazy girl that needs a relationship title. He seems really great and I would like to hang out with him more.


Please keep in mind: I am not a sloot. I was with the same boy for five years. And now I am sleeping with work buddy. That’s it. Also when I say I don’t care if we are dating I really don’t care. I just don’t want to feel bad about going out for dinner with someone else or what have you.

Cliff notes: Dipping the pen in the company ink. Not sure how to ask where I stand.


I cant post pictures from work so you will have to wait until I am at home if you want them.

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if you're sleeping with him, why don't you just ask him?

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You're not dating. See whoever else you want until he gives you some indication otherwise.

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I think all women posting in OOT should be required to identify themselves as such at the beginning of a post like this.

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Why?

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You're not dating. Make sure he knows that though.

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Agree 100%. Without these lines - "Without sounding like a crazy girl" and the "sloot," I would still be thinking this person was posting about a homosexual relationship developing in OOT.

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KKF's on a roll today.

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sounds to me like you're just random play for him at this point
also, these company ink/pen things can get dangerous - I hope neither of u reports to the other...

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sparki,

What's the problem? You two are hanging out and having fun. Why would you feel bad for having dinner with someone else?!

Unless someone makes it clear that they want to be exclusive, there's no need to over-think it or feel too committed. What's bringing this worry on all of a sudden? Or have you been feeling this way since you first slept together?

Yugoslav

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lol @ me

I have zero clue what this is supposed to mean.

Yugoslav

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Agree 100%. Without these lines - "Without sounding like a crazy girl" and the "sloot," I would still be thinking this person was posting about a homosexual relationship developing in OOT.

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QFT

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Agree 100%. Without these lines - "Without sounding like a crazy girl" and the "sloot," I would still be thinking this person was posting about a homosexual relationship developing in OOT.

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So? I actually don't think changes anything too much. The OP really needs to identify her own expectations/wants though before any course of action can be determined.

I actually started responding before realizing OP *was* a girl (skimmed post), then saw the follow up posts and reread it for the "acting like a crazy girl" part. My response barely changed at all.

Yugoslav

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Also when I say I don’t care if we are dating I really don’t care.

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sure you don't, thats why you made this post

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I just don’t want to feel bad about going out for dinner with someone else or what have you.

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you shouldn't, he isn't


basically whats going on is he is banging some girl from work, and thats about where it ends for him. If he wanted a relationship, you would have known about it by now. So the only thing thats going to happen if you bring it up is you are going to be "the crazy girl". So if you truly are fine with things, then just keep doing what your doing, and do whatever else you want with whoever else you want whenever else you want. If you want more, then you have to express to him your interests, get over the fear of looking like some crazy girl for letting him know you like him. There is absolutely nothing wrong with liking someone and letting them know that, the reason its got a label is because guys are [censored] and want to just keep boning a girl without having to do "all that other stuff" so they make any girl who wants more feel stupid for doing so.


also, I was really dissapointed by your post, cuz I didnt realize you were a girl until after the first paragraph and it was so much more exciting when it was a gay advice thread [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

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What's bringing this worry on all of a sudden? Or have you been feeling this way since you first slept together?

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I had someone ask me out this week. I would have said no anyway but it brought up the question in my mind. I guess also beacuse its coming up on the two month mark of us sleeping together. It just feels like a long time to not know where you stand.

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So, he was busy last weekend & is going out of town this weekend...hmm...does that tell you anything??

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Also when I say I don’t care if we are dating I really don’t care.

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sure you don't, thats why you made this post



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The last boy I dated was uber sensitive and told me that I broke his heart after we had gone out for dinner twice.

I just dont want to hurt anyones feelings.

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Ways to tell if the guys going to get hurt -

he doesn't have much dating history (you will destroy him regardless since everything is the 'real' deal)
he calls regularly even when you don't return his calls - greater than 1.5:1 ratio (he likes you more than you like him, he'll get hurt)
he says 'I love you' but doesn't try to sleep with you that night. (he's done)

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Also when I say I don’t care if we are dating I really don’t care.

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sure you don't, thats why you made this post



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The last boy I dated was uber sensitive and told me that I broke his heart after we had gone out for dinner twice.

I just dont want to hurt anyones feelings.

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sounds like an emo loser

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So, he was busy last weekend & is going out of town this weekend...hmm...does that tell you anything??

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I know he was busy last weekend. He was coaching kids hockey at a summer camp. And he has had a trip planed for next weekend for months.

So no. Not really Maybe that he's a busy guy...

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sure you don't, thats why you made this post



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I just dont want to hurt anyones feelings.

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Eh, you haven't done anything wrong. I get the feeling you want to go see what this new dude is all about. Go ahead and have fun.

As for the other guy, it really sounds like the two of you are simply "friends with benefits" (god I hate that term). If he thinks it's more, that's on him, not you.

Yugoslav

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sounds like an emo loser

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Yeah that was the last one though not the one from work.

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I had someone ask me out this week. I would have said no anyway but it brought up the question in my mind. I guess also beacuse its coming up on the two month mark of us sleeping together. It just feels like a long time to not know where you stand.

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I think it's obvious where you stand. You're hanging out. Period.

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So, he was busy last weekend & is going out of town this weekend...hmm...does that tell you anything??

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I know he was busy last weekend. He was coaching kids hockey at a summer camp. And he has had a trip planed for next weekend for months.

So no. Not really Maybe that he's a busy guy...

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Ok, then. But don't be surprised if he's "busy" alot going forward.

How old are you Sparki? I only ask because you used the term 'boy' when refering to the last guy you dated.

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How old are you Sparki? I only ask because you used the term 'boy' when refering to the last guy you dated.

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Lots of girls do this, doesnt mean they are older, usually it means they are pretty attractive

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How old are you Sparki? I only ask because you used the term 'boy' when refering to the last guy you dated.

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Lots of girls do this, doesnt mean they are older, usually it means they are pretty attractive

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I didn't say she was "older"....I simply asked her age. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

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I just call boys boys. Im 23.

The last "boy" I dated was 27. Thats not really a boy but meh.

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I just call boys boys. Im 23.

The last "boy" I dated was 27. Thats not really a boy but meh.

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That was my point all along..... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

At 23, just enjoy the ride Dear. It doesn't last, trust me. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Re: What’s my play?
 

What is your play? Follow this timeless advice ...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TknKpINPiIY

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I guess. But I dont really think the fact that I am young has anything to do with it.

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Finally some advice i can use. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]