Dealing with poker stalkers
 

Unfortunately, my poker stalker will probably find this post, but so be it, I'm letting him know soon enough.

This guy really creeps me out. Backstory is that we went to the same college and played in some of the same live tournaments there. We talked on AIM for a period of time as acquaintances, mostly poker-related, and I hung out with him once. It was ultra-awkward and when I decided to play in a tournament instead of the possibility of going to a basketball game with him, he flipped out on me.

When I started posting on a poker forum (not this one) and he saw it, he joined a month or two later. He made a online journal after seeing mine. He stalked me on Stars and commented on hands he saw me play without telling me he was sweating. I made an exclusively-poker blog for a class and he made one soon after and linked me (though in fairness I did advertise it on a forum we were both on). Now he signed up for the site I played on now, made a handle very similar to mine, sat in on my game and then posted hands I played in his blog and commented on them (I posted one hand involving him in my blog, but I didn't use his name or the tournament it was in if that's any consolation).



I suppose this is innocent in nature, but this really freaks me out and even though he doesn't get a ton of hits on his blog, I'm just creeped out by the entire ordeal. Also I'd worry about the poker site in question thinking we're colluding or that I'm multi-accounting. So beyond telling him to stop shadowing me/writing about me in his blog (not that I have a right to tell him what to write about, it's teh internet), any other advice?

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Sounds pretty innocent to me like you said. Also seems like you've never let him know that what he is doing is bothering you, that might be the first step...

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Passive/aggressive much? Instead of actually telling this guy that what he's doing pisses you off, you just make a post on a forum that you both read hoping he'll take the hint and you'll never have to deal with a confrontation? Pretty weak move IMO.

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Passive/aggressive much? Instead of actually telling this guy that what he's doing pisses you off, you just make a post on a forum that you both read hoping he'll take the hint and you'll never have to deal with a confrontation? Pretty weak move IMO.

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Did you read the OP? I contacted him about this and how I was unhappy about the situation. Read better plz.

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This situation seems incredibly harmless. He just has a little internet mancrush on you. Ain't nothin wrong with that. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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Challenge him to a NL HU match for it ALL

If you win, then you banish him forever and he must agree.
If he wins, then you must be his best buddy for 5 years.

Good luck

and to your stalker: Sup Bro?

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I contacted him about this and how I was unhappy about the situation. Read better plz.

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I didn't see where you rote this in your post.

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If his actions make you feel uncomfortable, you MUST tell him so. He'll either stop or he won't. If he stops, hopefully it's for good.

If he doesn't stop following you around online/on sites, perhaps you should email the site(s), explain that you're being followed/stalked by this guy (and include his username), and request a username change. Do something before there is any possibility of escalation.

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I suppose this is innocent in nature, ...

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Sounds creepy-weirdo to me. Like a movie with Rebecca DeMornay.

I wonder if you contacted PStars support and told them this story, if they would make an exception and let you change your handle? They did for me when I had two accounts before it became a big deal. You might just ask them for advice. Or see if someone has an account you can use, or open one in your mother's name.

Blogging. You could have one of those private blogs where people have to ask to be admitted.

Friends of mine, the wife is being stalked in a similar creepy way by a guy they rented an apartment to and hired to do some maintenance work. He's a gambler - as in addict. Been banned from Foxwoods, though we aren't sure why. Ended up getting about 20 grand out of them.

GL with this -

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I contacted him about this and how I was unhappy about the situation. Read better plz.

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I didn't see where you rote this in your post.

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me either.

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Passive/aggressive much? Instead of actually telling this guy that what he's doing pisses you off, you just make a post on a forum that you both read hoping he'll take the hint and you'll never have to deal with a confrontation? Pretty weak move IMO.

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Did you read my mind? I contacted him about this and how I was unhappy about the situation. Mind Read better plz.

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fyp

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burz, why didn't i get any thank you for the roses i sent you?

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I contacted him about this and how I was unhappy about the situation. Read better plz.

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I didn't see where you rote this in your post.

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me either.

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...me either

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Hide yourself from search when you play online so he can't find you? That is unless he goes through every single table...

It sounds like this guy's trying to be you [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img] rather than stalking tbh, he's not following you in anything else other than poker is he; of couse it's a different story if he wanders around your house with binoculars.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery as they say so take it as a compliment [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]