Does your significant other mind poker?
 

I posted this a few months ago in the mid-high stakes forum. Thought I would try it again here. Apologize to those who have already voted in advance...

I am posting this to get a general idea of how our GF or wives feel about us playing. In my last relationship she absolutely hated poker playing, just couldn't stand it. Is this the norm? Do most women see poker as taking away from or seriously impeding the man/women relationship?

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You forgot the "I am destined to be single forever because I play poker online all day and never get out of the house" option.

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She doesn't mind it. When I show her that I'm making money she understands.

Hence, she studied for finals tonight while I 1-tabled and read SSHE.

Oh, she also doesn't care because her birthday is in a few weeks.

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Does the last one mean "I once got head while multi tabling"?

Because that's the one I voted for.

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hmmmm...

not a lot of options for us heterosexual girls in this poll...

even though I probably anyways fall into that category that Shoe mentioned, "I am destined to be single forever because I play poker online all day and never get out of the house" [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

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My wife is INCREDIBLY supportive of my play. It helps that I've never invested ONE penny of our own into my BR, so it's been nothing but a 100% positive return for us. She loves the idea that once I'm able to go full-time that I will be home more which will be great for when we have kids. The late nights used to bother her, but she got used to them just like she did when I worked 3rd shift. Again, she is incredibly understanding/supportive of that as well.

I always spout off different concepts to her, hoping that she will learn to play better. To my surprise, one evening at a for-fun-home-game she absolutely RULED everyone at that table, including myself -- Megenoita can attest to this fact!! LOL. So, be careful gentleman, they listen [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] I figured she was just bluffing every time she raised and she later told me that not once had she bluffed! She had graduated [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

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My wife hated poker when I first started, and was very worried that I'd become addicted to gambling and was urging me to to stop. it got even worse when I accidently left my neteller account on the PC screen one day and she saw some largish - $500 or so deposits going to sites.

Her attitude changed quite a bit when I paid for a short holiday for her and our two kids (I couldn't get away from work to go with them), and provided thier spending money, all out of my winnings and bonus whoring profits.

Now she says "I'm having an early night/watching TV/going out tonight, why don't you have a game of poker" [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

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Same here.

I started playing without her first knowing it. I knew she would be freaked out because the year before I had a little gambling problem where I lost about 15 grand on the slots. Then, there was this discussion on 2+2 about four months ago about whether to step up and tell the truth and fight for your right to Party, which helped me a lot. She freaked out first but I kept explaining and explaining. Now she is fine with me playing casual poker and winning $ 600 each month. I keep most of the winnings for my bankroll but also did the "holiday pocket money from poker winnings" thing. That helped quite a lot. Even my mother-in-law said to her that me playing poker is fine as long as I am winning. [img]/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img]

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I hid it from her until I nailed the bad beat jackpot at the now dead Big Bet Poker for $6250. Then I came clean with her. It was a lot easier to do with a wad of cash in hand. Now she knows it is how I pay the bills and deals with it. I have even taught her to be a winning 1/2 Stud8 and O8 player.

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She doesn't play but when i took second in a 30+3 SNG i played with a friend the other day and told her i made $60 she told me to stop wasting time playing so low and to get on the real tables.

LOL

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You missed

She understands it’s a hobby so she doesn’t mind, but wouldnt like me to play in all our free time so I limit my play.

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I was getting a fairly tepid response about my playing until I brought home $1K from my first live tourney win. After that it was still lukewarm for a while, then I won an entry onto the PPM cruise last year. Once we got back it was "don't touch your bankroll, let's keep building it up."

Now I get really good support which really helps when I'm having a downswing.

Shauna

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What kind of a lousy Go match is this?

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she actually encourages me to play.
she thinks that it's good for me to unwind, because i enjoy it a lot.

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My ex was great about it. Shame she was such a pain in the butt about everything else. But when she was over my place, she wanted the computer off (understandably). SHe also hated that when she fell asleep about 9:00 Sunday nights, I'd sneak back on the computer till about 3 a.m. -- Buddy, I was awake anyway.

But since the break up ... I play cards, golf and coach. These are 3 activities that do not promote meeting an abundance date-worthy people.

Someone should start a match.com for card players! [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

edit note: It is also difficult to expalin the computer with 2 screens, and laptop set up to new dates. They are always like - "What do you need that for?" Then, I expalin that have a small online business that requires different screens.

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I have the best defence in the world to any complaint - she wears an engagement ring that I would not have been in a position to buy without poker winnings!

"Poker paid for that ring on your finger" is a great line to have in any argument on the issue!

Sheriff

PS: The good lady doesn't play herself but even she has expressed surprise at how much she has picked up from seeing me play and from reluctantly watching it on TV. She could actually be a decent player but has so far never shown any interest in having a go. The only time this ever makes things slightly awkward is when we go to Vegas as I either have to make sure she's happily shopping or being spa-treated when I play or wait until she's asleep before hitting the tables!

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My wife understands that this is my hobby, and that I really enjoy it. I used to tell her how much I won, but now I don't because she doesn't care.

I mostly play late at night, she is on an earlier schedule than I am.

I don't like to take too much time away from her.

My play will decrease significantly when the baby comes in August.

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We are currently investing all gambling income towards a vacation home in Mexico. She loves it.

Good luck all,

Fitz

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My wife tolerates my play now.

In the beginning she hated it. My comoputer is in our living room and I often play in her presence. I block out my surronds when I play and therefore I rarely hear her when she asks me a question and this drives her crazy. She feels very strongly that the money I'm making isn't worth my not being present enough. A few months ago we made an agreement that I would only play late at night, after the kids were in bed. This has helped a lot. I now usually only play between 10:00pm and 3:00am. She's usually alseep most of that time. Now she only whines when I'm useless in the morning because I stayed up too late getting drunk playing poker (this is a typical Saturday morning for me). We really need the extra income and I've had the opportunity to bail us out of some real financial troubles. I think she looks at it like I do now. It's a second job and the money is reliable. She has definitely gotten over her fear that I will someday "lose it all" and knows my system is working though she can't fathom how.

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My wife tolerates my play now.

... My comoputer is in our living room and I often play in her presence. I block out my surronds when I play and therefore I rarely hear her when she asks me a question and this drives her crazy. ....
==> Playing while being in the same room is asking for trouble from my wife for the same reasons. I only play in the study.
... A few months ago we made an agreement that I would only play late at night, after the kids were in bed. This has helped a lot. ...
==> I would never play with my kids being around me. Good agreement!
...She has definitely gotten over her fear that I will someday "lose it all" and knows my system is working though she can't fathom how.
==> It took mine four months to lose that fear

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Well, I was playing poker when we met... and I paid for her dream wedding and honeymoon to Paris with poker winnings. So she is pretty supportive of it now.

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I can't believe the "so I can make us money" option is in the lead. That signals a collective perception problem to me.

It's also the option I voted for, too.

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My husband has no problem. While i am not a winning player, (until recently PT had me just slightly neg) the bonuses are nice.

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I picked this one, but you know you'd have to replace her with him...but not always -_-

"Her BB/100 is 3.5 and she taught me how to 3 bet and isolate the maniac preflop then check raise the turn and get overcalls on the river; her favorite game is $1000/2000 7-stud HI LOW"

and most girls wont care unless it's a) making them broke or b) killing the quality time you spend together... lucky for me...we can play hands and sit and goes together

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she's pushing me to quit my job and play poker...

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"Poker paid for that ring on your finger" is a great line to have in any argument on the issue!

HAHA I won 2 shamrock 7 jackpots within 15 minutes at a dumpy casino in NC and used the money to buy my wife a nice ring years ago. Now when I come back from playing video poker broke she cant get mad because "Honey if it weren't for video poker you wouldnt have that colorless diamond on your finger"

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It irritates her right now, but when we spend $5000 on a week long vacation later this year, she'll start cracking the whip to me to the tables, lol.

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Yeah, she hates how the new big screen TV and home theater rig kinda dominate the living room, but she will begrudgingly admit that it's the best damned TV picture and sound she's ever seen and heard.

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Wife is incredibly supportive, although she does expect me to give the kids a bath and get them ready for bed before I go to the Poker Cave to play. The fact that I Neteller money to her once a month to cover the mortgage (and other bills some months) helps quite a bit.

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looks like I'm not the only one, money can ease the pain for any woman. My girlfriend used to get really mad b/c I played so much, but now I try to only play at night. I am funding a trip to Europe for us in June so that shut her up for a while.

I have tried to get her to learn, but that might be a lost cause. Oh well. I enjoy my time. She doesn't like to be in the room while I play, mainly b/c I yell at who ever is in the room when I take a bad beat, helps with the whole tilting thing.

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She doesn't like it, I don't care, I play whenever I want, wherever I want, and as much as I want, even if this ends up breaking up our relationship.

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Amend that to say:

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She doesn't like it, I kinda care, I try and play as much as possible while still hanging out with her every day, if we break up because of it, its her fault, bitch

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and I'm good.

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Me: "I'm going to play a tourney tonight, I might be home late"

The Wife: "That's OK honey, if you're home late it means you're winning."

She's the best. [img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img]

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We just had to cancel a planned trip to Vegas (logistical problems) and she was more upset than I was!!

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Ugh, it looks like my girlfriend is the least supportive/understanding of the group thus far. She hates poker and everything related to it. Fair enough, I can't expect my significant other to take an interest in everything I do. So I never talk about it with her and I only play it when we're away from each other. However I still receive frowns of disapproval whenever she overhears conversation between my friends and I about it. She sees it as addictive in nature and that any time spent playing is harmful regardless of whether I win or lose. Initially I tried to share my long term records and statistics with her to reassure I'm not going to bankrupt myself, but that only made her more worried because of the time and effort that I obviously put into keeping accurate records. Don't get the wrong impression--she's an otherwise wonderful girlfriend but when it comes to poker she's a nightmare.

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How much of your profits do you redirect her way?

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How much of your profits do you redirect her way?

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I do take her out more than usual but since I never discuss my poker bankroll with her, she just thinks it's money from my day time job. I could buy her a big ticket item with the profits, but I'm afraid it could backfire like the time when I tried to show her my win/loss records.

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My girlfriend doesn't understand it. She think that I am losing all of this money because she will hear me talking to friends about losing 30 or 40 bucks in a session. She doesn't understand that most of the time I make that back and that I am acquiring a bonus on top of it.

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[x] She understands and is supportive as long as I make time for her, too

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She's quite supportive. At first she was worried when I would tell her I lost 10-20 playing .5/1. Now when I tell her I dropped a g last night, she handles it better than I do.

When I'm in a bad swing she reminds me about the long run. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

-Criag

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she's pushing me to quit my job and play poker...

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In order to sway me on our upcoming move to Arizona, my wife said, "Vegas is like five hours away, and when I get my degree and make $100,000/year, you can quit your job and play poker full time - live and/or online. Think about it!"

She had me at, "Hello." [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

PB