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I moved into my house yrs ago. Nice quiet neighborhood, great yard, safe. Lucky to get in while prices were good. First day of unpacking, my neighbors knock on the door, and use the guise of a "welcome". I say thanks, obv I am busy unpacking, don't really want to invite people in either. Last neighborhood I lived in, I became the free babysitter for a single mom, and the grocery store to another neighbor who wanted to "borrow" at least 3 or 4 things a week. I just want to keep to myself, be polite but keep a distance. Then, the questions began. Are you married? No. Wow, expensive house for a young single woman. Is your family wealthy? WTF? I was pretty much like, uh, I am really busy, but it continued. Do you have kids, what religion are you, we can tell you which churches are around. Are you dating, etc, etc.

I put a 6 foot wood fence around my back yard so I could go outside. If I tried to just enjoy coffee on my back deck, neighbors would "pop by". These neighbors are mainly from 2 houses, but a couple others too. I have one decent couple right next to me, who told me that since I don't invite people in, they are curious. They told me that the ones that grilled me on my first day look in my windows if I leave the curtains open after I leave for work. WTF? I am not going to invite them in my house, I don't like them. Neighbors A (the couple who look in my windows) came over a couple of months ago, telling me they liked my cat in the window, could they come in to pet her. No. Sorry, in a rush. Its like I have to sneak in and out of my house sometimes. Leaving my screen door open on a nice day is an open invitation to them also.

A couple of months back, my friend had a party, and had lots of empties. I was the designated driver, I barely drink, maybe one or 2 beers a month. I helped do cleanup, and have an extra recycle bin, so I took about 2 dozen beer bottles home, and one bottle of tequila and vodka. Neighbors A take strolls on Friday (coincidentally, recycle bin day) up and down the block early morning. They came over to ask me if I was having problems recently. No, I am not. We couldn't help but notice, you have had liquor on your breath lately. Again, WTF? Had barely talked to them, even if I had, I hadn't had a drink in about a month. Then I realized, these detectives must have looked in my bin. It dawned on me this is why this is the only day of the week they take strolls. I ignore them, well, gotta go.


Neighbor C catches me (running late) to work, and decides to run over. Hey, did you see what time my husband got in last night? That lying cheat, etc. etc. Starts to gossip about her own husband cheating on her. I don't even know her last name, and she decides to share this with me?

Good neighbors, sadly, are separating, they tell me last week. He is moving out (hopefully temporarily) and they work different shifts. They have a fairly new puppy and confide in me and ask me if I mind taking him out once a day to cover for him. No prob.

Sunday, I am recovering from one of the worst bouts of the flu I have ever had. I had been up all night, sick (you don't want details here) and ended up falling asleep after 6am. Anyone who is sick knows the only relief is sleep sometimes, and all night I just prayed, and prayed to fall asleep. At 8am, there is BANGING on my door. I look at my clock, cannot believe it, its Sunday morning. I think OMG, family emergency (both of my parents have health probs). I stagger to the door, and its neighbor A, with a huge grin and a gleem in her eye. Hiya! I am like WTF once again. I just heard, next door broke up. Whats the story. Reply, I am sick, and there is no story. AGAIN, she says, you know, we know YOU KNOW, you have been going in and out of the house. What is going on (she says this like an excited kid getting a puppy)! I had just stated, and you could clearly see, I was seriously not feeling well. She jolted me out of a sleep for this. Then, she continued. I cut her off mid sentence, and said WHAT PART OF I AM SICK, NO STORY do you not get. I have never gossipped with you or anyone else here, and am never going to. Instead of, sorry, didn't mean to wake you when you are sick she badmouths me to everyone.

Now, I am the villian. Neighbors B have a nice little girl, who I used to wave to. She was riding her bike this morning and I waved, and she said "mommy said you are mean" and rode by. Apparently neighbors A wasted no time in letting everyone know what a bitch I am. Good neighbor said she didn't hear the "whole story" but it went something like this. Neighbor A noticed I didn't look well, came over to see if she could help, and I went off on her.

What to do? Neighbor C actually came over and said, wow, to yell at an old lady, that is just wrong. So now, neighors a, b, and c all think I am horrible. I almost want to write a letter, and explain the whole situation and mail it to the block. Then, I think why bother? It just sucks, this old biddy went around and basically made me look terrible to everyone. Should I ignore this, or let everyone know my side? I hate to play into the game, but why let her get away with this?

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What a whorrible bitch you are. I mean they...they.











In all seriousness, you've already passed the point of no return.
Someone has to die now.

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Get a blog, damn.

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Sorry this was such a long ass vent. I guess hearing the kid say, "mommy said you are mean" just set me off.

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pics of you please

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Whats the problem with them thinking you are a bitch? By the sounds of it, they might leave you alone now...

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Sorry this was such a long ass vent. I guess hearing the kid say, "mommy said you are mean" just set me off.

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But why would it set you off if you know Mommy is batshiat crazy?





Also, Columbian necktie.

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Consider yourself lucky now, you've gotten rid of them and so WHAT if they think you're "mean"? Screw them and be happy to have gotten rid of them, finally.

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And tell that bitch if you EVER catch her looking in your [censored] windows again...



...TNT, done dirt cheap.

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I would just ignore it, now maybe these nuts will leave you alone.

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pics of you please

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with a 2p2 reference so we know your not fake,

sorry standard 2p2 procedure

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this sounds like some srs Desperate Housewives [censored] up psychoville [censored] you've gotten yourself into.

where the hell do places like this exist, anyway?

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As long as they start leaving you alone now i'd take that over worrying about them liking you.

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Places like this exist somewhere in Connecticut. My parents live in the same town without much incident. Same with my sister. I lived with her for a while and no probs ever with the neighbors.

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I would just ignore it, now maybe these nuts will leave you alone.

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QFT, and if anyone says anything tell them to mind their [censored] business and leave you the [censored] alone. With f-bombs where 2+2 censored it. If it was me, at 8 am (healthy or not, wtf that's too early) and some lady was banging on my door I would've told her to go home and shut the door in her face.

Any screen door is an invitation for them? [censored] that. Tell them to stay the [censored] off of your property.

I have had similar experiences and it drives me insane. I had a fat, ugly girl come over (when I lived in a large apartment complex) at 2 am knocking on my door asking for cigarettes... wtf? I stood in the door smoking and told her straight-faced that I didn't smoke, bye and slammed the door. Some other retard asked me if I had tape. WTF? No I don't have tape, go [censored] yourself.

This hits home with me. Don't do anything to apologize. Just ignore them. If they come over again, tell them to stop coming over because you want them to leave you alone. That is insanely intrusive, looking in your windows wtf? I'd call the cops and have them go talk to those nosy [censored].

GL I empathize.

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I can't help but think that you are surprisingly antisocial...some neighbors come over to say hi to the person who just moved in and your first moves are to basically alienate every single one of them. I'm not saying they're perfect, and yeah 8 AM is too early for a visit, but DAMN.

Then again, this is 2+2.

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Places like this exist somewhere in Connecticut. My parents live in the same town without much incident. Same with my sister. I lived with her for a while and no probs ever with the neighbors.

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Did your parents come up with your and your sisters home down payments, because I'm still trying to figure out how a single person affords a house of the size that would make people ask "How can you afford this house by yourself?"?

Does this town start with a Stamford, cuz that place is just filled with crazy rich people?

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Sidetrack with my own question:

As a kid growing up in middle class suburb, we hardly ever even talked to our neighbors. We would be friendly and say hi when passing, we would chat outside for a few minutes every once in awhile, and maybe walk/feed pets when someone went on vacation. I'd get together with other neighborhood kids and we'd play kickball or tag. But other than that, we kept to ourselves mainly. WTF is with these crazy people in OP? Are neighbors like that common?

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I had been up all night, sick (you don't want details here) and ended up falling asleep after 6am.

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also, incidentally, I was somewhat curious about the details. was there explosive diarrhea involved?

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I really, really love that you stood in the door smoking and said you don't smoke. I actually wanted to call the cops when they looked in my windows, but good neighbors didn't want to get involved. They were the ones who saw it, and I didn't want to cause probs for them. I didn't tell them why she really came over either, no point in making the separation worse for them. I just said, "you know thats not the real story right" and she said "of course".

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Places like this exist somewhere in Connecticut. My parents live in the same town without much incident. Same with my sister. I lived with her for a while and no probs ever with the neighbors.

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Did your parents come up with your and your sisters home down payments, because I'm still trying to figure out how a single person affords a house of the size that would make people ask "How can you afford this house by yourself?"?

Does this town start with a Stamford, cuz that place is just filled with crazy rich people?

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No, not Stamford. Orange. Its not a huge house, but is a decent size for a single person. Its not a super rich area either. Yes, our parents helped us both with downpayments, we are very fortunate. I also worked very hard though also to save up too.

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I can't help but think that you are surprisingly antisocial...some neighbors come over to say hi to the person who just moved in and your first moves are to basically alienate every single one of them. I'm not saying they're perfect, and yeah 8 AM is too early for a visit, but DAMN.

Then again, this is 2+2.

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Old people have nothing better to do. They want to remain relevant, so they become the neighborhood watch for the social scene.

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No, not Stamford. Orange. Its not a huge house, but is a decent size for a single person. Its not a super rich area either. Yes, our parents helped us both with downpayments, we are very fortunate. I also worked very hard though also to save up too.

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Uhhhhhuh...

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I can't help but think that you are surprisingly antisocial...some neighbors come over to say hi to the person who just moved in and your first moves are to basically alienate every single one of them. I'm not saying they're perfect, and yeah 8 AM is too early for a visit, but DAMN.

Then again, this is 2+2.

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Old people have nothing better to do. They want to remain relevant, so they become the neighborhood watch for the social scene.

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I don't doubt that. I'm just saying OP probably isn't the image of a perfect neighbor either. I mean, for Christ's sakes, I sure as hell wouldn't want to stop unpacking in my empty house to stop and make small talk with new neighbors. I've got important things to do. Like, uhhhhh, unpack.

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I can't help but think that you are surprisingly antisocial...some neighbors come over to say hi to the person who just moved in and your first moves are to basically alienate every single one of them. I'm not saying they're perfect, and yeah 8 AM is too early for a visit, but DAMN.

Then again, this is 2+2.

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I don't consider myself antisocial, I just choose who I want to socialize with. The first time they came over, it was more like they had a questionaire they were reciting. I just don't think that what religion I am, whether my parents have money, etc. is really not anybodys business. Esp people I have known for less than 5 minutes. I don't feel I should be obligated to answer.

I guess I can see why you might think I am antisocial, but I am always polite. These people have continually over the years, started sentences with things like "we see you got home late Tuesday night".

BTW, they told me they lost their cat about a year ago, and asked me to keep an eye out for her. The woman had tears in her eyes, and was telling me she would do anything to get her back. One night (yes, a night I was getting home late) I saw her about 2 blocks down. It was a little after 11pm, and I called her. She is the kind of cat that doesn't go to anyone except her owners. I went and knocked on the door to let them know and they peeked out a window. I actually saw them look at me, and they closed the curtain quickly. Tried to call but no answer and they don't have a machine.

I know they had to have known it was me, because I actually pulled my car into their driveway and when they looked out they had to have seen it. The next day they were curious, but didn't want to admit they wouldn't answer the door for me. They came up and said, uh, did you happen to knock last night, we thought we may have heard someone but were sleeping. I told them yes, I saw your cat but she wouldn't come to me. She slapped her husband on the arm and said, see, I TOLD YOU TO GET IT! I heard him say as I was walking away, how did I know thats what she wanted? I think I did my best to help them there. It seemed to me they were afraid I was going to ask them for something so they pretended not to see me. They never got the poor cat back.

I admit I am not the super friendly have parties and invite everyone over kind of neighbor, but I respect everyones privacy and try to mind my business. When these people lost the cat, I really felt for them. I suggested they leave food out, catnip, helped put up signs because they are old. I even offered to help them find a new kitten if they decided they wanted one. That is the closest to friendly I have been though.

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One night (yes, a night I was getting home late) I saw him about 2 blocks down.

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Go get the cat.

NOW who has the leverage in the neighborhood?!

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One night (yes, a night I was getting home late) I saw him about 2 blocks down.

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Go get the cat.

NOW who has the leverage in the neighborhood?!

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This just made me LOL. Yeah, I have Precious. Who is a bitch now?

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One night (yes, a night I was getting home late) I saw him about 2 blocks down.

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Go get the cat.

NOW who has the leverage in the neighborhood?!

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This just made me LOL. Yeah, I have Precious. Who is a bitch now?

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Answer: Them.

Get your cat a leesh and take it out for a walk back in forth in front of their house.

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lol, good to see you're still around here DMC. I figured after the first few jerk-responses from 2+2 that you got you'd be done :P

Anyways, sounds like you're all set now that the neighbors don't like you?

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Hi Taso, I guess its a blessing. I gotta say, for the most part the community here is a good one. I feel better about this just venting here. Its like therapy:)

BTW, most of those posters who gave me an ass kicking in my first question thread turned out to be nice. If only they could have been nice the whole way, but then again, I wouldn't have won the $200 prop bet.

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Sorry to hear about your unfortunate situation, on a good note, by being the bitch, you've gotten what you wanted. Don't play thier game, ignore anything said about you.

I live in a pretty nice house that I own and keep a roommate. One of my neighbors flat out accused me of dealing drugs. She assumes that because I don't leave my house for work everyday, that I must deal drugs. I didn't explain a thing to her, let her believe what she wishes.

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Sorry to hear about your unfortunate situation, on a good note, by being the bitch, you've gotten what you wanted. Don't play thier game, ignore anything said about you.

I live in a pretty nice house that I own and keep a roommate. One of my neighbors flat out accused me of dealing drugs. She assumes that because I don't leave my house for work everyday, that I must deal drugs. I didn't explain a thing to her, let her believe what she wishes.

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Next time she accuses you, why not lean in real close and whisper "what do you need?". [img]/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img]

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Hi Taso, I guess its a blessing. I gotta say, for the most part the community here is a good one. I feel better about this just venting here. Its like therapy:)

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technically you still didn't answer my question about the details of your illness.. you know, about whether or not you had the trots?

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Hi Taso, I guess its a blessing. I gotta say, for the most part the community here is a good one. I feel better about this just venting here. Its like therapy:)

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technically you still didn't answer my question about the details of your illness.. you know, about whether or not you had the trots?

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Hmmm.... invasive question in a post about invasive questions? Irony, lol. Since you asked so nicely though, no. Everything else though, including being so cold my hands were like ice, stomach sick, sore muscles, head ache. The works, but alas, no runs.

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I'm with you. I'm not looking to be super friendly with my neighbors and your neighbors are clearly way over the line.

If it were me I wouldn't answer the door. Failing that I would just become annoying. They come to the door. After they start talking, I claim to hear the phone, tell them I'll be right back and not come back. They pry into how I'm doing I make up some medical condition so when they're gossiping they just look dumb.

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This could turn out to be real fun. I don't think they will come over anymore, but I could try this. Banging at the door, who is it? Answer, nosy neighbors. Reply, I am sorry, I can't come to the door, I lost my leg in an accident and can't walk.

Wait 3 minutes for this breaking news to populate the entire neighborhood, then go outside and skip around my front yard. I think you may be on to something. Loves it.

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OP, I am 100% with you and WTF at the posters saying you are anti-social.

I can tell you that if some complete strangers came over to my house as I was unpacking and started grilling me with questions like you mentioned, I would have been FAR less polite than you were. You are absolutely right that it was none of their business, and people who feel a need to ask all these questions are not "friendly," they are nosy [censored] who want to gossip about everyone.

Neighbors A are the main problem here and I truly cannot believe the outrageousness of some of their behavior. Looking in your windows--WHY ARE YOU LOOKING IN MY WINDOWS? YOU ARE TRESPASSING, AS IN, COMMITTING A CRIME! Commenting on the liquor in your trash--WHY ARE YOU GOING THROUGH MY TRASH? Coming over to ask you about neighbors' marital problems--WHY ARE YOU AT MY HOUSE AT THIS HOUR, AND WHY ARE YOU ASKING ABOUT NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORS? MIND YOUR OWN [censored] BUSINESS!

I think I would actually recruit the nice neighbors to be on your side by telling them that neighbor A came over to nose around in their marital business. And I would definitely confront A about how she lied about the substance of your chat when she woke you up to gossip, and explain my side of the story to B and C. I wouldn't give A the satisfaction of spreading falsehoods about me.

But you sound like a much nicer person to me.

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DMC0627,
I know Orange very well, and actually think you should do the opposite of what you're hearing here. Host a small neighborhood cookout or dinner. Invite all these people over for one day. Let them in your house, let them see how gracious and courteous you are. Once everyone is comfortable, happy, and certain you're not a nut, let them know how you feel about your privacy.

The next day set a bunch of Claymore mines around your yard to see who wasn't paying attention. Turn those people into fertilizer, spread them on your daylillies and hostas with a little cedar mulch. Water thoroughly.

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DMC0627,
I know Orange very well, and actually think you should do the opposite of what you're hearing here. Host a small neighborhood cookout or dinner. Invite all these people over for one day. Let them in your house, let them see how gracious and courteous you are. Once everyone is comfortable, happy, and certain you're not a nut, let them know how you feel about your privacy.

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This is a solid idea...




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The next day set a bunch of Claymore mines around your yard to see who wasn't paying attention. Turn those people into fertilizer, spread them on your daylillies and hostas with a little cedar mulch. Water thoroughly.

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...followed up with genius.

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Sorry to hear about your unfortunate situation, on a good note, by being the bitch, you've gotten what you wanted. Don't play thier game, ignore anything said about you.

I live in a pretty nice house that I own and keep a roommate. One of my neighbors flat out accused me of dealing drugs. She assumes that because I don't leave my house for work everyday, that I must deal drugs. I didn't explain a thing to her, let her believe what she wishes.

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Why is this not a thread of it's own?