Poker and Girlfriends
 

I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5-6 years now. We started dating in high school and have been together throughout college. I've lived with her for the past 2 years in college. She always gives me a hard time for playing poker. I play about 2-3 hours a day and take it very seriously. I make pretty good money but she can't seem to respect it. It's probably because gambling is not a traditional form of making money and maybe she just thinks I'm playing to avoid her or something. I've tried explaining to her that I treat it like a job and I try to get in a certain amount of hands per day/month. How do I get her to fully embrace what I do to make money right now? I told her I would start telling her on a weekly basis exactly what I win. She liked that idea, but she still only wants me to play when she is working. That's fine because she'll be working at nights anyway, but it just pisses me off that I am forced to play/work according to her schedule. If this was a regular/traditional job that paid over $100/hr, she would have no problem with me working tons of hours. I was thinking I should make myself a schedule that says what times I'll be playing/studying. Is anyone else in a situation like I am? I need some advice.

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Seems like she got you by the balls. Seriesly what do YOU want here. Unleass your spening all of her moey on the tables she has no reason to act this way

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i know guys like this, they're real soft.

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I didn't know that online poker players could have girlfriends.

Online Poker= Revenge of the Nerds.

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Seems like she got you by the balls. Seriesly what do YOU want here. Unleass your spening all of her money on the tables she has no reason to act this way

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Quite the opposite. I'm the one that makes the money. She's the one that spends money. Not mine, but I always take her out to nice dinners and whatever. Without poker, I wouldn't be able to take her to [censored]. I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play. So I guess she feels like I should be available while I am playing to fully communicate, but I feel like I am treating it like I am at work and can't really talk.

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Your girlfriend sucks. Get a new one.

-Michael

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maybe setup your computer in a more office like environment? even the bedroom would probably be better since it sounds like you need some privacy while playing. i hate being nagged while trying to concentrate.

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Most likely you have years of data and tens or hundreds of thousands of hands right? So breifly go over the data with her - show her the high points (break it down monthly or quarterly), look at how many hands you play, your win rate, how your win rate has hopefully improved since last year, etc. Once she sees how on top of the data you are - and that you're a winning player over something more than a few weeks, maybe she'll calm down.

I do NOT think you should agree to keep her posted weekly without at least running her through all the data first. Show her your worst and best weeks at least if you're going to do that so she understands if you lose one week its not the end of the world.

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Girls don't understand data. Some of them are idiots, some aren't. This one is. Gone.

-Michael

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Women hate whatever you enjoy, so just start acting like you hate it, but need to keep playing for the money. If you fool her she will be ok with you playing.

She is insecure in your relationship and needs to see if you will choose her over poker. So you mite allso want to tell her that reason you hate poker now is because it bothers her.
You must tell us how this works out too.

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lol at trying to logically explain [censored] to the chick. grow a pair and lay the law down, if she doesnt like it move on, 5-6 years THROUGH college with one chick and she is a bitch? man you got bigger issues.

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lol at trying to logically explain [censored] to the chick.

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OP,

2+2 is almost certainly filled with a adolescent-college aged men who have never been in a meaningful relationship and have developed a machismo complex that can only fully be exploited online where nobody knows their true identity or lifestyle.

It sounds like you and your girlfriend are well on your respective ways to working out a solution that makes you both happy. My fiancee knows that I play poker in the evenings, knows that I enjoy playing poker as a source of relaxation and profit, but I have also made it clear that she, and not poker, is the #1 priority in my life. Find that balance and you'll be golden.

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This is practically a law of nature.

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Most likely you have years of data and tens or hundreds of thousands of hands right? So breifly go over the data with her - show her the high points (break it down monthly or quarterly), look at how many hands you play, your win rate, how your win rate has hopefully improved since last year, etc. Once she sees how on top of the data you are - and that you're a winning player over something more than a few weeks, maybe she'll calm down.



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HAHAHAHAHA!!!

Good one.

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Seems like she got you by the balls. Seriesly what do YOU want here. Unleass your spening all of her money on the tables she has no reason to act this way

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Quite the opposite. I'm the one that makes the money. She's the one that spends money. Not mine, but I always take her out to nice dinners and whatever. Without poker, I wouldn't be able to take her to [censored]. I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play. So I guess she feels like I should be available while I am playing to fully communicate, but I feel like I am treating it like I am at work and can't really talk.

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I had this problem a long time ago, do you live together? It changes the advice......

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I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play. So I guess she feels like I should be available while I am playing to fully communicate, but I feel like I am treating it like I am at work and can't really talk.

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I used to have an office in the home and when I was trying to work my wife would come in and start talking to me about the her day and go on and on not the 5 minute version the 45 minute blow by blow. I tried many times to address this issue of her interuptions hurting my getting my work for appointments done. She was so self centered she had no idea how much she did it and could not see it even when brought to her attention. I spent the money to set up a small office in a business building and problem solved. You may have to find another location to "work".

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I taught my girlfriend how to play a couple of years ago when I first got really big on the game. She would just watch me play at first, and then she got accounts and I watched her and taught her how to play. She started out doing bonus whoring and kept moving up in stakes. Now she's playing 400NL and 600NL full time while I'm at 200NL playing part time.

This story wasn't meant to be helpful, but I think it's a funny situation. When I first got obsessed with the game she would hassle me for playing too much. But then she got jealous of the fairly easy money clearing poker bonuses and now she's better than I am and I have become the jealous one. Also if anything I need to hassle her to get off the computer sometimes so we can hang out.

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I was in the same boat. I dumped my g/f five minutes ago. Now I don't have that problem anymore.

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Seems like she got you by the balls. Seriesly what do YOU want here. Unleass your spening all of her money on the tables she has no reason to act this way

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Quite the opposite. I'm the one that makes the money. She's the one that spends money. Not mine, but I always take her out to nice dinners and whatever. Without poker, I wouldn't be able to take her to [censored]. I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play. So I guess she feels like I should be available while I am playing to fully communicate, but I feel like I am treating it like I am at work and can't really talk.

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I see 2 options:
A) Get a new girlfriend. you're the one making the $. she has no right in bitching.

B) play at starbucks. make sure your cell phone can double as backup internet incase Starbucks internet goes down. that way you have your space away from here while working.

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Women hate whatever you enjoy, tell her that reason you hate poker now is because it bothers her.
You must tell us how this works out too.

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My ex gf was pretty unsupportive when it came to poker and it became a real pain in the ass. The girl ive been dating for the last 8-9 months is very cool with it - the first time I explained it all to her she totally got it, It probably helps that shes a scientist so can think logically and understands statistics. Now if only shed think logically when it comes to emotional stuff and arguments... thats really asking too much.

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I have my setup in a semi office setting. My wife USUALLY leaves me a lone to play, but if she just came home, she usually wants to talk.. and will come in and sit down and start talking.
My first response is usually to keep playing. If it is the 5 minute version of her day, great, I can keep playing.
If she goes on past 5 or starts asking me questions my
stock action/answer is..

Sit out on all tables, then say
I can't talk to you and "WORK" at the same time. I am going to lose money if I do. Would you like me to stop and talk to you?
My wife usually sets a decent cut off level of importance. If it is about health, money or the kids she will usually ask me to stop. If she is telling me about what happened at the grocery store she is usually satisfied with the 5 minutes. Then I can sit back in or shut off if necessary.

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I wrote a big reply to this but I think I can cut it down to one sentence:

GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU STILL CAN.

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Get rid of her. She's an attention seeking whore. Is she an only child? I just broek up (more she broke it off cuz she started bangin other dudes) 6 year relationship. Was plannin on marrying the chic. Was planning for the future.. puttin some time in now bulding a nice wad of cash so we can have kids and live comfortably. Well she's gone now and I have a ton of money. Just gonan buy a phat pad with a pool and have money hungry [censored] come over. Ain't takin her back when she calls crying realizing she's got no future cuz them other dudes are broke bums.

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If you truly love this girl and feel like there is a real future for the two of you, give her what she wants. It sounds like she is frustrated that you are playing while she needs/wants your attention. Give it to her. At the very least play less when she's home or play less tables so you can interact with her easier while playing.

Here's the thing. Poker isn't going anywhere, but if you neglect the feelings of the person you love, she may very well leave. Is that what you want?

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Get rid of her. She's an attention seeking whore. Is she an only child? I just broek up (more she broke it off cuz she started bangin other dudes) 6 year relationship. Was plannin on marrying the chic. Was planning for the future.. puttin some time in now bulding a nice wad of cash so we can have kids and live comfortably. Well she's gone now and I have a ton of money. Just gonan buy a phat pad with a pool and have money hungry [censored] come over. Ain't takin her back when she calls crying realizing she's got no future cuz them other dudes are broke bums.

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All women OP's age are attention seeking & money hungry and are most are still not matured enough emotionally to know what they want out of a relationship or outta life. At this age they all are continually looking for the B.B.D. Trust me...I been there, done that.

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lol at her having a tight grip on ur sack, dump the hoe, play alot and do what u want, cant let her run ur life

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lol at her having a tight grip on ur sack, dump the hoe, play alot and do what u want, cant let her run ur life

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... but if you neglect the feelings of the person you love, she may very well leave. Is that what you want?

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I think you have it the wrong way around. She doesn't respect OPs job. If she loves him, maybe she should stop being a bitch.

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Personally i like dating cocktail waitressess. I can date them during the week and i can play cards on the weekend when they are working at the casino.

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I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play. So I guess she feels like I should be available while I am playing to fully communicate, but I feel like I am treating it like I am at work and can't really talk.

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I used to have an office in the home and when I was trying to work my wife would come in and start talking to me about the her day and go on and on not the 5 minute version the 45 minute blow by blow. I tried many times to address this issue of her interuptions hurting my getting my work for appointments done. She was so self centered she had no idea how much she did it and could not see it even when brought to her attention. I spent the money to set up a small office in a business building and problem solved. You may have to find another location to "work".

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Haha.

I tried the office thing for poker, but it was at my dad's office building like 30 minutes away and I hated the commute.

Then I decided to upgrade my 1 bed. condo to a 2 bed. so I can use one room as my office.

I think a better solution would be a small office not in my condo but nearby.

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QFMT

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Ouch oooh ouch, you really have mah ballzzzz in the juicemaker

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I think this is a common problem. If you want your gf to 'understand' then that's never going to happen because girls (like many parents) just don't understand long-term positive expectation with this kind of gambling.

I suggest you don't play in the same room with her in and just ask her to accept your Poker whilst not interfering directly and in return you'll do the same for things in her life which you don't fully understand but do know are important to her.

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you have a girlfriend? What's it like?

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TTIUWP

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Your girlfriend has become your mum.

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I didn't even bother reading all the posts. Just show her this then SIIHP.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3b3vj-xgxm4

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Duck,

Most of the people responding in this thread are retarded and have never had or will never have a meaningful relationship.

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maybe she just thinks I'm playing to avoid her or something.

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All women are insecure, that's just their nature. She just wants to be reassured that she is your number #1 priority and poker takes a backseat. That's all she wants. If poker is your #1 priority, then yeah, get a new girlfriend.

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If this was a regular/traditional job that paid over $100/hr, she would have no problem with me working tons of hours.

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This is just simply not true. Women value emotional security over financial security and the ones that don't aren't worth it. I'm assuming she's in the former category and would feel the same way if you had a more traditional job but still had no time for her.

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I think what gets her pissed off is that I play poker in the living room so when I am playing, she can attempt to talk to me and whatever, but I really can't reciprocate b/c I have to concentrate and play.

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Is the $50 in EV you lose by spending a half hour to listen to her talk about her day worth it in the long run? Doubtful. It'll go a long way to her accepting the times that you do want to play when she's there if she knows that you are willing to step away from the tables when she needs you. It'll also improve your mindset when you are playing, knowing that she's not ten feet away pissed off at you because some stupid game is more important to you than her.