Sex after babies?
 

So 'Chair and I were just out to lunch at the Cheesecake Factory (yum) and got to discussing sex... standard. Our conversation landed on the topic of having babies and how that can really change a woman's body.

My question (or fear?) is: does having a baby totally change the vagina and make sex less pleasurable for either or both parties? I know that having a baby affects women's bodies differently (for instance, my mom had a 6-pack when I was a toddler, but then you see the moms on Discovery Health channel who have like six inches of hanging skin), and I'm wondering if perhaps it's the same with the vagina?

I'd love to hear from any of you married-with-kids guys or perhaps any of you who have just banged a lot of moms. Is the tightness gone after childbirth? Temporarily or permanently? Better yet, have any of you had any experience with vaginal rejuvenation surgery?

I'm expecting a lot of "Ewwww gross!" reactions but if you think about it, this is something that will probably eventually affect a lot of the people in this forum, if not already. So spill the beans!

EDIT: I am not planning on having babies for another ten years, I'm just curious.

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from what i have been told, kegels still work even if you've popped a few out. however, breastfeeding makes your nipples look funny, might want to watch out for that.

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just make sure you have a small baby and you got nothin to worry about

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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which is fine cause it will take at least that long for the little [censored] to sleep through the night anyway

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i've had sex with several women who had kids, and i never noticed too much difference from a before/after perspective..

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make sure teh doc stiches you up good afterwards.

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Go the trophy wife route of c-section + wet nurse. Hell, just go all the way and find a surrogate mother. Natural chilbirth is so played out.

And going with the surrogate mother has the added benefit of you not becoming a psycho hose beast after giving birth.

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I'm married w\ 2 kids. One is almost 4 and the other is about 1 1\2.

I think tightness stayed about the same, and if not, she regained her normal tightness after a few months. You are supposed to wait a while (6 weeks I think) anyway, so no matter how loose it was, I didnt care [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Other things, however, do change. One is soreness, especially if there is any tearing. She had an episiotomy the first go round and tore a bunch. She did not have an episiotomy the 2nd time, and did not tear at all. There seems to be alot of opinions on it, but if we ever have another I dont think she will get one.


I'll be happy to answer any add'l questions, or be more specific, but right now I have to get ready for the UNC\Duke game.

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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That's a horrible generalization. 3-4 months is closer to standard.

My wife has had two kids and there is no discernible difference in pre- and post-baby sex. Now, she works out and keeps in shape so YMMV.

Oh yeah, sex after 35 can still be good.

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or perhaps any of you who have just banged a lot of moms

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"Banged", in the parlance of our times? Are you sure you're a woman? Anybody here commenting on their wife's "tightness" pre- and post-pregnancy is a braver man than I.

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FFK-

I can tell you that I have done hundreds of vaginal exams on women, some who have never had a baby and others who have had several and there is very little difference in feel.
Some women do feel especially tight before having kids but I think the difference is minimal.

NT! is right there are a lot of exercises that can restrengthen pelvic and vaginal muscles.

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C-section?

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Mrs. Utah,
Thank you! Exactly the kind of information I was looking for. Same to all the other married responses.

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C-section?

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I really don't want a nasty scar down there. Even Britney's looked gross. Plus I've seen these done on TV and they look f-ing brutal.

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I have had sex with a younger girl that had no kids and then had sex with a woman that was a few years older than me with two kinds once and I could tell a difference.

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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How could that not vary widely and depend on the individual woman?

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I have had sex with a younger girl that had no kids and then had sex with a woman that was a few years older than me with two kinds once and I could tell a difference.

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variance

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FFK,

Try a day where you don't inject thinly-veiled (and really bad) brags into all of your posts. Anacardo laps them up but the rest of OOT doesn't care.

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"Go the trophy wife route of c-section + wet nurse."

Doesnt she still have to dialate before they pull the baby out?

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I find that natural broad-to-broad variance is too great to pin down any discernable pattern based on pregnancy (note: sample size best described as 'cozy')

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so your hand feels the same regardless of the actresses age Cardo?

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so your hand feels the same regardless of the actresses age Cardo?

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LOL.

My sample size is one and the results are excellent. I told the doc to sew her up tighter than a teenager.

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wetwork,

seek help.

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Two words: "extra stitch"

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I have a child and was with my son's mom for a long time (before and after obviously).

There was really no difference pre or post child in "tightness," or what not... but there was a huge difference in boobs. When I met her she was a smoking hot 9.5 who was 5'6" and about 118 lbs with full, perky C's. After the pregnancy, her boobs deflated and I've heard it's very standard. During the pregnancy they swelled up to DD though, which was fun for a while.

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"Go the trophy wife route of c-section + wet nurse."

Doesnt she still have to dialate before they pull the baby out?

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The cervix dilates, not the vagina

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FFK,

Try a day where you don't inject thinly-veiled (and really bad) brags into all of your posts. Anacardo laps them up but the rest of OOT doesn't care.

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What the F are you talking about? Where is the brag? And who the hell are you anyway? What a rockin' post count.

Wow, some people are ridiculously bitter and negative. What did I ever do to you?

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I have had sex with a younger girl that had no kids and then had sex with a woman that was a few years older than me with two kinds once and I could tell a difference.

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You need a control sample... the older chick could have just been looser anyway.

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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How could that not vary widely and depend on the individual woman?

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that's why....

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Two words: "extra stitch"

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"Put an extra one in for Dad" is commonly used during episiotomy time.

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Trust me, you dont want to have kids.

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lawl @ larry,
I think I read in either Glamour or Marie Claire that it takes up to a year before women are physically comfortable enough to have sex again (post baby).

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We were told to wait 6 weeks, and I think we made it 5 or so. My wife couldn't wait any longer. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] We took it easy the first couple of times, that was it.

And she's as tight as ever. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

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Sure, there are some changes a woman's body goes through after childbirth, but if she happens to be the mother of my children and the woman I love who cares?

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Condo,
Why did you waste all of our time writing that? Making fun of other people just makes you look bad.

Grando,
I know, I considered not citing my potential references, but I'm going to safely assume that a woman's magazine would know more about sex then someone's random speculations.

All,
Up to a year would imply that she could feel comfortable before the year.

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I'll let you know next week. Hopefully, I'll have a story similar to the other dads that replied.

Wish me luck! [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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I'll let you know next week. Hopefully, I'll have a story similar to the other dads that replied.

Wish me luck! [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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Yay! This is great. I expect a trip report.



Dom, good point, I love your response.


DrewDevil, congrats... glad to hear it!

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but I'm going to safely assume that a woman's magazine would know more about sex then someone's random speculations.

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heh, does that mean you've actually found soilers anal G spot? [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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Grando,
I know, I considered not citing my potential references, but I'm going to safely assume that a woman's magazine would know more about sex then someone's random speculations.


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you'd think so, wouldn't you

you'd also think that men's health would know stuff about men's health, and cosmo would know what guys want - but they don't

if someone forwarded information from some study or wikipedia links or something I would be more impressed - but teri schneider, health and fitness consultant from glamour magazine, just doesn't do it for me

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but I'm going to safely assume that a woman's magazine would know more about sex then someone's random speculations.

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heh, does that mean you've actually found soilers anal G spot? [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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lolz

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My question (or fear?) is: does having a baby totally change the woman's attitude and make sex less pleasurable for either or both parties?

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FYP - And yeah. But only for about 15 years....