Guys, never let your girl win at cards
 

So one night last week while my GF was out here visiting, we were playing cards and drinking a little wine. We we're both pretty buzzed, but I don't think that has any bearing on the story. Anyway, we were playing NL hold em, and since my GF has never played before and I've been playing for about 5 years, I was totally kicking her ass. At one point she got up to go to the bathroom, and while she was gone I decided to stack the deck so that she would get dealt AA and I would get dealt KK. I felt kinda bad that she was losing so much and I thought she wasn't having fun, so I thought this would be a good idea. She comes back, the hand plays out and she ends up taking a huge chunk of my chips. She seemed happy. The game ends shortly after that.

Fast forward to a few nights.

She's back home in Vegas we're talking on the phone. For some reason I decide that I should tell her that I stacked the deck on that hand so that she would win. I don't know why, I thought she would think it was funny and maybe I just needed to confess. HUGE MISTAKE. She gets big time pissed and is like "Why would you do that!!" The next day I call her and ask her why she's so pissed about it. She tells me she was just having fun playing the game and that she didn't need me to do that in order for her to enjoy it. I ask her why she's making such a big deal out of this and she gets even more pissed. She's like "Why are you telling me this is not a big deal!? Why are you saying my feelings don't matter!?" I'm genuinely confused as hell. I guess I can see her being a little irked, but it just seems like she is making a mountain out of a molehill. She said it would be a while before she could trust me again. Trust me??? It was a f'ing card game, it's not like I slept w/ her best friend.

Anyway, she hasn't called me in 2 days. We usually talk every night before going to bed.

What should I do here? Wait for her to call me, or do I call her and apologize for the 10th time for this grave sin I've committed? Is she making too big a deal out of this or does she have the right to be so pissed?

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What should I do here?

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cue forest gump picture

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Your g/f is visiting and you play cards????

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how long you been dating this nutjob?

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you should have smooth called the flop but now that you forgot to check raise the turn you are forced to bluff raise the river even though her not calling you last night is kind of a scare card but we're talking 70/30 here more or less.

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I'd handle this like you stumbled across a bear in the woods.

Stop, and slowly walk away.

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What's wrong w/ playing cards?

Bodhisattva, we've been together since September.

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Stacking the deck in her favor and then telling her that you let her win is really condescending.

That being said, she is overreacting.

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You should never apologize more than once for anything.

Wait two days and see if she calls. If she doesn't, call and leave a message asking if she wants to go out for dinner this weekend.

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First off your title is misleading. Second, this incident may have revealed what a bitch this girl really is. You probably shouldn't have said anything becauase people don't like being known that you let them win. However, it really isn't a big deal and you should tell her straight up that it's not a challenge for you to beat her so you were trying to make her feel better (ummm, word it better than that if you don't want to get dumped fo sho). all in all, this is pretty retarded of her.

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What's wrong w/ playing cards?

Bodhisattva, we've been together since September.

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If this is how she reacts to this nonsense think of whats to come when a real issue pops up.

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Stacking the deck in her favor and then telling her that you let her win is really condescending.

That being said, she is overreacting.

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Even if you don't agree with how she is (over)reacting to this, you should at least understand WHY she is upset.

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why did you have to rig the deck in order to let her win?

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She's banging another guy. What kind of chick freaks out about trust issues because you stacked the deck? The cheating ho-bag kind.

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She is a little nuts but you made a HUGE mistake in telling her that you let her win. I can't see any girl I know not getting a little pissed at this.

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It sounds like there was more to this scenario (maybe after she won or later) than is in your post. You said you maybe you just need to confess like you felt bad about it a little bit. She was probably initially pissed for the same reason you felt you needed to confess. Now I think she just wants you to understand. Still, thats a little bit of an over reaction. Be willing to give a little and be honest with her and this can probably end pretty soon.

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Just call her and tell her you are sorry and it wont happen again. You thought she wasnt having any fun so you were trying to be sweet and make her feel apart of the game. That being said if she still blows up then tell her to grow up and then find you a new girlfriend. Also, if you have pics of said gf then this will also help us with the advice we give you.

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Maybe she does not like and is currently looking for any reason to get you far away from her.

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the question I have it why are you so insecure that you felt the need to tell her the only reason you lost was because you rigged it?

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the question I have it why are you so insecure that you felt the need to tell her the only reason you lost was because you rigged it?

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[censored]'s on a roll lately.

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Lots of Lessons to Be Learned Here:
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don't know why, I thought she would think it was funny and maybe I just needed to confess. HUGE MISTAKE.

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This was a insignificant event....and you should have kept your mouth shut. LEARN from this. It does not pay to confess to you woman. I knew a guy that cheated on his ex-Dallas Cowboy chearleader wife. He feels bad and confesses. So she goes out has a revenge screw on him. Then they get separated and she bangs more guys. They get back together and she makes his life miserable being a HUGE Beotch. Granted this is a lot different from your situation but the leasson is the same............SHUT YOUR ****ing MOUTH.

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I ask her why she's making such a big deal out of this and she gets even more pissed. She's like "Why are you telling me this is not a big deal!? Why are you saying my feelings don't matter!?"

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She hears you saying, 'you are not justified to feel that way'. Still she is over reacting. I wonder if she was planning to dump you and is using this as the excuse.....seriously. You said "So one night last week while my GF was out here visiting,". Does this mean you have an out-of-town GF? If so I bet she is screwing someone else, feels bad, and use this event as an excuse to make you the bad guy. It is the old, "blame someone else for what you are guilty of".

First make ONE SINCERE HEARTFELT APOLOGY...and then no more!!! If she does not accept it then date someone else. I'm in my 40s and I learned with women to get a woman that knows how to forgive. The ones that like to hold grudges will make your life miserable. Your girl strikes me as a beotch. But.....I'm only hearing your side of the story and perhaps you are leaving out some important details... There is more to this story either from your side or her side...

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I'd be pissed too. It's sort of insulting.

Also, and I think this applies to a lot of fights between men and women, your reaction to her being upset made her feel like you were down-playing her perspective, which is even further insulting. "OMG you dumb girl, why you gotta get so upset that I stacked the deck for your dumb ass? LOLZ, women."

Not saying she's not over-reacting, but I see where she might be coming from.

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She feels like you dont think she is your equal. She also feels you treated her like you would a child....ie letting her win.

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This girl has been losing interest in you for a long time. It is only a matter of time before the relationship is over. DO NOT CALL HER. Wait for her to call you. It's your only chance.

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I knew a guy that cheated on his ex-Dallas Cowboy chearleader wife. He feels bad and confesses. So she goes out has a revenge screw on him. Then they get separated and she bangs more guys. They get back together and she makes his life miserable being a HUGE Beotch.

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The guy was that blind to see that getting back together wasn't a great idea?

Sounds like they both deserve each other.

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She's angry because she feels foolish that she was sitting there excited about beating you while secretly you're laughing at her because you played on a trick on her behind her back and you think you're better than her.

Well, maybe that's not all 100% true, but I'm guessing that's what the situation looks like in a girl's head.

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show up at her door with flowers and candy make a sincere ..... na [censored] it, bang her sister and her mom

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i always win

it hasn't occurred to me that the deck might be stacked

why did you ruin my happiness!?!?!

edit: although seriously, if she's remotely attractive, you should be a) playing strip poker and winning, or b) teaching her how to play poker so you can take her to vegas and have her pull a brandi ( minus the crazy part and the slutty part ) . . . has NVG taught you nothing?

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suck out next time

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i always win

it hasn't occurred to me that the deck might be stacked

why did you ruin my happiness!?!?!

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LOLZ, Women

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I'd handle this like you stumbled across a bear in the woods.

Stop, and slowly walk away.

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lol... nh

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Cliff notes: OP is a tard, who has no idea how to handle a competitve situation with his woman.

You started well by stacking the deck in her favour (AA v KK first hand back from the bathroom is a little too obvious BTW), but WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY did you have to tell her you did it? So stupid... I, and men in general, know very little about women, but one of the things that we should all know is that if we have to cheat to let her win, make it believable that she won and believable that we wanted to win. Its no good taking a 12 on the last hole of minigolf, you need to plan ahead and miss short putts the whole round. AA v KK is too obvious, if you are gonna stack the deck, give her something like a turned straight, or TP on the flop and a rivered nut flush. If you are playing ping pong, just tone it down from the start, and act pissed off as you keep hitting it into the net or off the table. If your GF is the competitive type, convincing her that she beat you fair and square can be one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs around...

This is also why I have never, and will never, allow my fiancee to take up golf- some things are more important than sex...

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He was a great friend. His marriage was good until he open his big stupid mouth. He had ended the affair and got away with it. BUT....he thought he should confess. Jeez......what a moron.

I couldn't stand his wife after they got back together. She became evil and he kept taking her crap. I lost all respect for him and distanced myself from the both of them. And this was a guy with options. When he was in his early 40s, 19 years old would whistle at him on Saturday nights. He had game. I haven't seen them for over 5 years now.....

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Just for the record she claims to have no idea that something was fishy, despite how obvious the AA vs KK situation would look to a seasoned player. Keep in mind this was the first time she ever played.

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Wait two days and see if she calls. If she doesn't, call and leave a message asking if she wants to go out for dinner this weekend.

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And if she says no, ask her whether that means a [censored] is out of the question.

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Just for the record she claims to have no idea that something was fishy, despite how obvious the AA vs KK situation would look to a seasoned player. Keep in mind this was the first time she ever played.

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confront her with this damning information

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hahah

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Why are you saying my feelings don't matter!?

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that is a golden line that shows how women only argue arguements they can win.

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why the F would you tell her you stacked the deck?

(esp if you know she's emo/drama type)

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Methinks its time to change your location.