Bretrayal
 

What do you do when a good friend betrays you? Could you look back and ask if they ever were a good friend, or should we not be retroactive here? Regardless, how do do we respond to the situation at hand?

The reason I ask is because, obviously. someone has committed such an act. I am. obviously, unsure how to respond. This betrayal is deeper than anything I've ever felt. Part of me just wans to ignore it and wish it nevered happened. My assertive side is begging for answers. They elude me.

Comments, thoughts, and insults welcomed.

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You could stop being such a [censored] drama queen and explain the situation.

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lol what a mangina

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life is pain.

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Or you could quit being such a detaile freak and just answer the broad question posed. As I said insults are cool. If I needed people to comb through every detail, I would have provided them. It seems like this is something someone could easily relay a situation which made them feel the same way. Then relating it to what I asked. If it's too queer or whatever to answer, then don't.

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This is, at the very least, helpful.

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Or you could quit being such a detaile freak and just answer the broad question posed. As I said insults are cool. If I needed people to comb through every detail, I would have provided them. It seems like this is something someone could easily relay a situation which made them feel the same way. Then relating it to what I asked. If it's too queer or whatever to answer, then don't.

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Ahahaha, sorry your buddy got with some girl you were too much of a pussy to close the deal with. Call your mom or something.

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Hardly. I was with a girl, buddy decided to get some for himself. Sorry that wasn't clear.

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The girl in this is not even important mind you. The betrayal as I told it was done by the guy.

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Ahahahahaha. Awesome.

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Totally. The girl is a skank, but thats fine, because I shut her out of my life. It doesn't bother me.

My friend, for many years. took it upon himself to get involved while I was still in the picture. Over-the-top, indeed. Do I believe this is unique situation? No, which is why I asked for some perspective, on what I was hoping would be a broad discussion, and not a pity train.

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"Broad discussion". Do you want to talk about the skank or the dude you wanna bang, make up your mind already tough guy.

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Tough guy? Lol.

Well thanks for the laughs.

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Will do.

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Fen,

Did you put him in the hospital?

My Instincts Tell Me....
 

....you are over-reacting.
BUT....you have provided meaningful details so it is hard to say.

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Hardly. I was with a girl, buddy decided to get some for himself. Sorry that wasn't clear.

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The anser is obvious, [censored] the dudes Mom and post a trip report

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Invite your friend to dinner. Hide a gun in the toilet. Excuse yourself halfway through, then come back and shoot him in the face.

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Invite your friend to dinner. Hide a gun in the toilet. Excuse yourself halfway through, then come back and shoot him in the face.

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yup, if he survives, you may now choose to forgive him and call it even.

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An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.

~Buddha

My suggestion, as I have done this very recently, is just cut them out of your life. Dont think back and wonder if they were really your friend. It doesnt matter. Just cut them out completely. Try not to think about it. And go out and have fun. Meet new people. Make new friends that wont [censored] you over or treat you like [censored].

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if the girl was a skank maybe your friend did you a favor?

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Haven't you seen Cocktail with Tom Cruise?? Your buddy was obviously trying to open your eyes to the skank's skankyness. He couldn't just tell you she's a skank because you wouldn't pay any attention, so he showed you instead.

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listen to tennenbaum

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Totally. The girl is a skank, but thats fine, because I shut her out of my life. It doesn't bother me.

My friend, for many years. took it upon himself to get involved while I was still in the picture. Over-the-top, indeed. Do I believe this is unique situation? No, which is why I asked for some perspective, on what I was hoping would be a broad discussion, and not a pity train.

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Did your friend know beyond a doubt you were still involved? How serious was your relationship with the girl? If the relationship was serious, did your friend know just how serious you were about her?

Men are weak. In the heat of the moment she could have told him anything.

Before you chalk your friend off, have a talk with him too find out where is was really coming from. If you find out the worst- revenge or a beating would probably not be out of line.

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This is one of the biggest hurts a person faces in life...when they must accept the unexpected fact that somebody they trusted turns out not to be worthy of such faith. I have dealt with this several times, and what I did was to ignore the offending person. Didn't return phone calls, e-mails, etc. If I saw them at a gathering, I'd leave, if possible.

The way I look at it is, the person who betrayed you was given a wonderful gift of your friendship and your trust. It was THEIR choice to crap all over it, and their behavior proves how little they respect or value your friendship. (This is an even worse offense if they were your lover.) Believe me, it hurts, but the shock will wear off, and you do not need losers like that in your life. The fact that they are "chitt-heads" should be their problem, not yours.

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I was just wondering, if you were just out to get some meaningless sex with some girl who isn't important to you, does it really matter if your friend wanted in on it too? Maybe he didn't think you'd even care. In my first post, I didn't know the details. I thought most guys out "cruising" woulda just laughed about it afterward. Maybe you oughta talk it over with him. If he is a good friend, is some female meat puppet worth losing a friendship over?

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This is one of the biggest hurts a person faces in life...when they must accept the unexpected fact that somebody they trusted turns out not to be worthy of such faith. I have dealt with this several times, and what I did was to ignore the offending person. Didn't return phone calls, e-mails, etc. If I saw them at a gathering, I'd leave, if possible.

The way I look at it is, the person who betrayed you was given a wonderful gift of your friendship and your trust. It was THEIR choice to crap all over it, and their behavior proves how little they respect or value your friendship. (This is an even worse offense if they were your lover.) Believe me, it hurts, but the shock will wear off, and you do not need losers like that in your life. The fact that they are "chitt-heads" should be their problem, not yours.

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hear, hear!

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If the girl feels really guilty about it, you can probably shame her and SIIHP. Videotape it and post it on the internets and you'll feel a lot better.

Post the link, obv.

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make sure to post it on your myspace page. Change the background to scary black and your music to something angry.

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I would go on the Dr. Phil show.

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LOL! NH

-ZEN