In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Not just a one night stand, but a long term relationship. So please keep the 'big titted nympho whore w/ double jointed legs and a wide set vagina' comments out.

I'm seriously asking what it is that guys are looking for.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

my thoughts don't represent a very large portion of the demographic you're looking for but I like quirkiness and curiosity a lot. You know, along with the physical stuff.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes all of their stupid little boy issues, and is hot enough to keep them interested long enough to knock them up. After that they will get bored and cheat on her.

NT

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Not just a one night stand, but a long term relationship. So please keep the 'big titted nympho whore w/ double jointed legs and a wide set vagina' comments out.

I'm seriously asking what it is that guys are looking for.

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I wasn't looking for anything. As a matter of fact, I swore I'd never marry again...

So...I think it just has to happen. Can't be looked for, only found.


(damn I can't type this morning)

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my thoughts don't represent a very large portion of the demographic you're looking for but I like quirkiness and curiosity a lot. You know, along with the physical stuff.

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What kind of quirkiness? And curiosity about what? All things, life etc..?

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes all of their stupid little boy issues, and is hot enough to keep them interested long enough to knock them up. After that they will get bored and cheat on her.

NT

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freudian cliche.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

- intelligent, succesfull, has some kind of interesting career
- she needs to golf or ski, preferably both
- likes food/drink
- like travel/exploring
- decent looking

basically, me

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Not just a one night stand, but a long term relationship. So please keep the 'big titted nympho whore w/ double jointed legs and a wide set vagina' comments out.

I'm seriously asking what it is that guys are looking for.

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Someone who tells me that they think I'm intelligent and make them laugh.

An added bonus would be someone who is a winning poker player, and a raving nymphomaniac. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

intelligence- smart enough to carry a conversation, but not smart enough to make me feel stupid.

all about balance. dependent enough to make me feel wanted and needed, but independent enough to go out and get [censored] done.

looks are pretty important too. but only to get things started.

sex has to be good. preferably likes to cook and clean but not a necessity.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes all of their stupid little boy issues, and is hot enough to keep them interested long enough to knock them up. After that they will get bored and cheat on her.

NT

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freudian cliche.

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meh i have found it to be true for the most part.

certainly was for me. i have been pretty lucky to stumble into something decent through no fault of my own.

NT

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Tannenbaum - I've never heard a dude say they were looking for a chick with a big vagina.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Somebody that listens and is patient.

Awesome appetites. Loves poker. Willin' to share the dream with you, wherever or whenever or whatever form it takes.

Fortunate enough to have found her. Nobody comes into a relationship without baggage, but if you're willing to share the load, it rocks.

Listening to her is always worthwhile. Knowing that it takes two to make the good things happen...

Funny thing though, I didn't know I was lookin' for those things.

'course, she's gotta be a redhead. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img] My downfall, but such sweet downfall.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes

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I don't know what this word means, and neither does google. Maybe "validates" is better?

OP,

A really good friend. I know its a cliche that at all the 50th anniversary parties, the old geezers stand up and say they're best friends, but after dating my girlfriend for four years or so, and living together for almost three, I think its pretty true.

If you're looking for specifics, I really can't be more specific than that, because what each person looks for in a best friend varies. For me personally, its intelligence combined with bouts of irreverence, and an ability to be patient with me and not talk during sporting events unless well-educated and grounded on the subject matter at hand.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

A good personality. A positive look on life. Not someone that gets easily offended.

Brains. Empathy. Preferably a leftist political view.

Physically I'm attracted to skinny girls. And I'm not a fan of make-up. At least not the 'bright red lipstick' look.

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes

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I don't know what this word means, and neither does google. Maybe "validates" is better?

OP,

A really good friend. I know its a cliche that at all the 50th anniversary parties, the old geezers stand up and say they're best friends, but after dating my girlfriend for four years or so, and living together for almost three, I think its pretty true.

val·or·ize (vl-rz) Pronunciation Key
tr.v. val·or·ized, val·or·iz·ing, val·or·iz·es
To establish and maintain the price of (a commodity) by governmental action.
To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history” (Mircea Eliade).

If you're looking for specifics, I really can't be more specific than that, because what each person looks for in a best friend varies. For me personally, its intelligence combined with bouts of irreverence, and an ability to be patient with me and not talk during sporting events unless well-educated and grounded on the subject matter at hand.

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val·or·ize (vl-rz) Pronunciation Key
tr.v. val·or·ized, val·or·iz·ing, val·or·iz·es
To establish and maintain the price of (a commodity) by governmental action.
To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history” (Mircea Eliade).

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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my thoughts don't represent a very large portion of the demographic you're looking for but I like quirkiness and curiosity a lot. You know, along with the physical stuff.

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What kind of quirkiness? And curiosity about what? All things, life etc..?

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I think of quirkiness as the idiosyncracies that make you you . Hard to explain, but its just the little things that help me recognize who someone is. Of course, I have to like who that someone is... I know this is vague and not really what you're asking for, but as of right now I'm not looking for anything really specific - just whatever I like, I guess. I absolutely love Amelie's quirkiness. And Lucien's too, although not in a romantic way.

And curiosity can be pretty wide- it could be about books, molecular biology, life, whatever. Mainly its a girl's ability to be interested in something of her own volition and her wanting to ask questions and stuff. If this isn't there, I tend to get bored pretty fast.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

My last 5-6 girlfriends have alternated between

1) down to earth, straight-arrow, good girl types

and

2) wild, rebellious, bad girl types

I've had great relationships with both types, and terrible relationships with both types.

As long as she is, deep down inside, a "good" person, I'm not sure it really matters.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

wtf. Go to google, enter "define: valorize" in the search, and copy/paste results.

EDIT: wtf at google, not you.

EDIT edit: Sorry, didn't want to turn this into a nitfest of dictionary definitions. Just ignore that part of my post, I guess.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

RDH,

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To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history”

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Google turned this up pretty much right away for me BTW. I suspect it may be one of those academia buzzwords that gets kicked around (apparently appropriated from the economics lexicon) but I think it fits.

What I mean is, basically, a woman who thinks all the silly boy stuff you do is cute or even cool. Even if she has no interest in it, she should at least think it's cute or comforting that you care about it.

NT

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

First hurdle, besides 'are you attractive,' is 'do you get my jokes.' I find this to be one of the most reliable indicators of a person's general intelligence and compatibility of personality. Think I'm funny or it's over.

I am attracted to kindness, exuberance, eccentricity and un-manufactured, un-stylish charisma. Lacking any ambition for status or many types of what is labeled 'achievement' - I am a creature of hobbies - I often find ambition in others interesting. I strongly feel that any relationship in which I am the better-organized, less-flaky party is doomed to failure. I like to be made to feel useful.

I once described my ideally-envisioned relationship thusly - she'd be Margaret Thatcher, only hot and not such a bitch. I'd be her secret cabinet advisor that she ran when she was in trouble, and I'd be doing her on the side.

Oh, and not, secretly, the Devil. That's a big one too.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Tannenbaum - I've never heard a dude say they were looking for a chick with a big vagina.

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"A forty-thousand dollar baseball doesn't just disappear"

"What are you implying?"

"I submit that you stole the ball and stashed it in your unusually large vagina!"

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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RDH,

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To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history”

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web page

Google turned this up pretty much right away for me BTW. I suspect it may be one of those academia buzzwords that gets kicked around (apparently appropriated from the economics lexicon) but I think it fits.

What I mean is, basically, a woman who thinks all the silly boy stuff you do is cute or even cool. Even if she has no interest in it, she should at least think it's cute or comforting that you care about it.

NT

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which in turn encourages u to do more stupid/silly stuff for which she eventually gets sick of.

grown men acting silly like little boys have no place in this world. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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my thoughts don't represent a very large portion of the demographic you're looking for but I like quirkiness and curiosity a lot. You know, along with the physical stuff.

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What kind of quirkiness? And curiosity about what? All things, life etc..?

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I think of quirkiness as the idiosyncracies that make you you . Hard to explain, but its just the little things that help me recognize who someone is. Of course, I have to like who that someone is... I know this is vague and not really what you're asking for, but as of right now I'm not looking for anything really specific - just whatever I like, I guess. I absolutely love Amelie's quirkiness. And Lucien's too, although not in a romantic way.

And curiosity can be pretty wide- it could be about books, molecular biology, life, whatever. Mainly its a girl's ability to be interested in something of her own volition and her wanting to ask questions and stuff. If this isn't there, I tend to get bored pretty fast.

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I'm not really looking for anything. I was just curious as to what you guys are looking for. Everyone has something different that they want. I guess I was just wondering what all the OOTers are looking for out of someone.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Someone who is intelligent, with the same sense of humour as me, almost.

Quite sarcastic.

Musical.

Preferably hot with glasses.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Tenne:

This is a good question. I bet most people here have no idea. We think we want someone like us, but no woman is like us, so we end up with a whole slew of different types of girl...

I'm probably going to have to start thinking about this soon, (boo single life) so I've been going back over my relationship history and making generalizations about the women that I actually have dated/married and seeing what they have in common. Therefore, what I am looking for in a woman, not ideally but quantitatively is:

Lack of interest in my abilities and ambitions (most important).
Insatiable sexual appetite coupled with demanding idiosyncrasies to the point of impotence-inducing intimidation.
Odd sense of humor that takes a while to crack.
A dangerously escapist whimsy.
Aversion to drinking and smoking (and a desire to force me to quit both).
Great taste in music and movies, but with some traditional chick clunkers thrown in like Fever Pitch and Ani DiFranco.
Good fashion sense, with a bent towards modesty and hip-ness rather than sexuality.
Childish self-interest.
Neediness.
Jealousy.
Credulity.
A big ass.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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RDH,

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To give or assign a value to: “The prophets valorized history”

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web page

Google turned this up pretty much right away for me BTW. I suspect it may be one of those academia buzzwords that gets kicked around (apparently appropriated from the economics lexicon) but I think it fits.

What I mean is, basically, a woman who thinks all the silly boy stuff you do is cute or even cool. Even if she has no interest in it, she should at least think it's cute or comforting that you care about it.

NT

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which in turn encourages u to do more stupid/silly stuff for which she eventually gets sick of.

grown men acting silly like little boys have no place in this world. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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why do you think i'm running OOT?

no, seriously, i think the idea is that you have to self-police on the macho b.s. rather than be constantly reigned in by your SO. same thing for her. you have to love the stupid parts of each other so that they don't become a grating issue. because everyone is stupid in their own way.

NT

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Wrong Thread

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

An upper class Thai chick between the ages of 25 and 30 who speaks good english.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

intelligence, a quick wit (so obviously a sense of humor), compassioniate, sincere, compatible with me sexually (ie. we both generally want it the same amount, both have the same level of kinky, etc), willing to try new things, makes an effort to share (or at least understand) my interests, has a passion in her life that isnt me (or at least some outlet that doesnt involve me in anyway), and she cant be fat. (Athletic would be nice, but thats rare in my age group)

Not really in any order, and obviously no girl is ever gunna fit someones list perfectly, so girls I end up in relationships with dont have EVERY one of those characterisits, but for the most part they have most all of them. The only one that is a total deal breaker is the fat one...the intelligence once is close, I would never LTR a dumb girl, but I wouldnt drop a girl for being average in the brains department.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

My sense of humor is hit or miss with girls, so it HAS to click with her in a big way. I have the be the funniest f--king thing she knows.

She must be intelligent, and I mean really intelligent. Two standard deviations from the norm, 1500 SAT-ish, has interesting ideas about everything type of intelligent.

She must be fun, and excite me, at least in the beginning, and must be able to relax.

I must find her attractive, although this is not too demanding since I just like the way women look a lot of the time.

Must love sex. And drinking. And understand poker.

This part is weird, but I've developed an oddly specific type over the years that 80% of my signicant others have exhibited:

Brown hair. Brown eyes. Tan/olive skin (think Israeli/Mediterranean), name that starts with the letter 'A'. 90% of my gf's have had names that started with A, I have no idea why. My mom's name is Anne, FWIW, though she has light skin and black hair.

Anyways, God, that's my order, I'm available for delivery anytime. You know where to find me.

P.S., The 'A' name thing is negotiable. I guess. If you have to. Natalie Portman, for example, would be fine.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

you don't really know til you find it, I humbly submit.

Time to trot out a cliche, my wife is my best friend.

We do almost everything together. Play poker together, hang out with our friends together, etc.

She shares my sense of humor, understands why I am the way I am, and I understand why she is the way she is.

Also, as Anacardo can attest, she'll cut you if you mess with her.

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Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

She's surfing wedding dresses the other day. Fun stuff.

Anyway, goes the conversation, linky to a pretty awesome dress.

"Oh, does she come with the dress?"

"I'll break her in half."

"But she's a B-cup! Look at her!"

Wouldn't have it any other way, really. Loves looking at women as much as I do, but as much as suggest something... [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Sense of humor is #1 here. I would've left my girlfriend after the first couple boot knockings if she wasn't so fun to be around.

Really, it's useless to have a "type I'm looking for" because you're gonna find someone you like a lot, who hopefully likes you back.

There's someone out there for everything. . . just hope the person you were meant to hook up with doesn't get hit by a bus while you're typing on a message board. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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Most guys are looking for some version of their mom that accepts or even valorizes all of their stupid little boy issues, and is hot enough to keep them interested long enough to knock them up. After that they will get bored and cheat on her.

NT

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FTW!!

Seriously though, this is so hard to quantify... I have been "in love" with women of such varied personality sets that I could not even begin to answer this. Or put another way: I still have no idea what I am looking for. I would wager most people either don't know... or think that they do and actually don't.

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please keep the 'big titted nympho whore comments out.

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Actually I prefer small hooters.
On a cute skinny girl.

So I'm looking for one of those, who finds a
fat old man attractive. And isn't a lunatic.

Someone I get along with that likes hanging out with me.

You interested Tennenbaum?

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

intellegent, understanding, willing to have fun. Looks arent necessarly important.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

NT!,

Isn't your girlfriend Asian? Are we to infer you were an abandoned child?

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

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you don't really know til you find it, I humbly submit.

Time to trot out a cliche, my wife is my best friend.

We do almost everything together. Play poker together, hang out with our friends together, etc.

She shares my sense of humor, understands why I am the way I am, and I understand why she is the way she is.

Also, as Anacardo can attest, she'll cut you if you mess with her.

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Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa.

Let's clarify.

Shaj is referencing a conversation that went like this -

"Wow, Mrs. Shaj seems like the kind that would fuggin' cut me if I gave her any [censored]."

SHAJ: "Heh, yeah."

That's it. No actual messing-with or cutting occurred.

Christ, dude, I get enough of the rumor mill as it is.

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Card: Does your new girlfriend read oot? Or are you just being more paranoid than normal these days?

lucks,
--GA

Re: In all seriousness, what are you looking for in a woman?
 

Broseph,

I knew if I planted the seed, you'd water it and make it grow.

Meta-game, ftw.

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FTR, Anacardo is a perfect gentleman.
(can you please remove the knife from my throat region now?)
I keed, I keed.