My career is on the line I think
 

Lately I have been having a hard time dealing with a lot of issues. I think I am suffering from depression, but havent talked to anyone yet. Now its really starting to affect my job/career for that matter. I mean, what do you do when you seem to have no friends and no one at works likes you either because they think you are a total waste? I wake up everyday and feel worse than the day before. I feel very unmotivated, a lack of caring, and nothing really makes me happy anymore. I think I've gained 20 pounds in the last month or so, and the only thing that seem to do anything is junk food. If you ever knew me before you would know that I HATE places like McDonalds, yet now that seems to be the food of choice. I dont have fun anymore either, dont laugh as much, dont cut up making jokes like I used to, and typically just dont socialize anymore because I just seem to feel unwelcome. I dont even feel welcomed at work, at least by some people. I going to try and talk to someone today but wanted to get some thoughts out on here first.

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Your work situation isn't as bad as you think. It seems that bad because you want it to.

Also, if you stop being depressed everything will change. Approach life with a thumbs up attitude and double down on fun!

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Go see a shrink. There's zero reason not to. Talk to your boss, tell them you're going through a depression, but are seeking help. If you have had any kind of successful career there before this, they'll normally work with you on this..

Ray

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Talking to someone will definitely help, if for no other reason than you can say whatever you want and they will listen and try to understand. When you think about it, you probably don't have this opportunity very often.

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Peter Gibbons: What if we're still doin' this when we're 50?
Samir: It would be nice to have that kind of job security.
Peter Gibbons: Lumbergh's gonna have me work on Saturday. I can tell already. I'm gonna end up doin' it, because, uh...
[nods]
Peter Gibbons: because I'm a big pussy... which is why I work at Initech to begin with.
Michael Bolton: Uh, yeah, well, I work at Initech and I don't consider myself a pussy, OK?
Samir: Yes, I am also not a pussy.

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Also, if you stop being depressed everything will change.

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why didn't he think of that?! the key to his unhappiness...is his depression!


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Approach life with a thumbs up attitude and double down on fun!

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Peter Gibbons: What if we're still doin' this when we're 50?
Samir: It would be nice to have that kind of job security.
Peter Gibbons: Lumbergh's gonna have me work on Saturday. I can tell already. I'm gonna end up doin' it, because, uh...
[nods]
Peter Gibbons: because I'm a big pussy... which is why I work at Initech to begin with.
Michael Bolton: Uh, yeah, well, I work at Initech and I don't consider myself a pussy, OK?
Samir: Yes, I am also not a pussy.

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Nice. I was thinking...

Peter Gibbons: So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that's on the worst day of my life.
Dr. Swanson: What about today? Is today the worst day of your life?
Peter Gibbons: Yeah.
Dr. Swanson: Wow, that's messed up.

OP - sorry to hear that. Yes, talking to somebody....anybody...would be a good thing. Maybe cross-post this in Psychology forum?

ScottieK

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This should be in the psych forum.

Sorry for being harsh, but you have to decide to change your perspective. Only you can change your outlook. Quit smoking dope/drinking/wolfing down junk food, or whatever it is that you're using as a crutch and choose not to be miserable. See a shrink if that's your thing, but realize that there's no panacea for how you feel. You have to do it yourself. You can't walk into a shrink's office and say "I'm miserable. Make me feel better."

Suck it up and make changes in your own life. Sorry bro, it's the only way you'll get out of this rut.

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Go see a shrink.

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There's zero reason not to.

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Talk to your boss, tell them you're going through a depression

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QFT

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Peter Gibbons: What if we're still doin' this when we're 50?
Samir: It would be nice to have that kind of job security.
Peter Gibbons: Lumbergh's gonna have me work on Saturday. I can tell already. I'm gonna end up doin' it, because, uh...
[nods]
Peter Gibbons: because I'm a big pussy... which is why I work at Initech to begin with.
Michael Bolton: Uh, yeah, well, I work at Initech and I don't consider myself a pussy, OK?
Samir: Yes, I am also not a pussy.

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Nice. I was thinking...

Peter Gibbons: So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that's on the worst day of my life.
Dr. Swanson: What about today? Is today the worst day of your life?
Peter Gibbons: Yeah.
Dr. Swanson: Wow, that's messed up.

OP - sorry to hear that. Yes, talking to somebody....anybody...would be a good thing. Maybe cross-post this in Psychology forum?

ScottieK

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Leave it up to OOT to make me laugh for a minute anyway. I thought about posting in the psych forum but it looked like more people whinning about bad beats and running bad. Thus, OOT. Ok, so I am off to talk to the Doc.

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See a doctor.

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Do your work benefits include a counseling service? You should use that if so, it will actually help protect your work situation a little...

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See a hooker.

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consider exercising and cutting out junk food. Being healthy is a really good, proven way to make you feel better about yourself.

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I've been in your same situation except, I excluded myself from everything. I never had a job where I believed that nobody liked me, I just felt like the world was weighing down on me - because of certain personal issues.

From someone who has battled depression before, go see a psychologist.

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maybe you make things out to be a bigger deal then they are?

For instance, you title this thread "My career is on the line I think". Do you think that if you lose your job, they are going to bar you from ever working in your field again?

Why is your career on the line? Are you a pro baseball player? My guess is no. So really...it's just your job on the line isn't it?

Thinking "I was looking for a job when I found this one..." will get you past that.

It's all a matter of perspective.

Don't pet the sweaty stuff.

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Bison is right, go to a doctor. Ignore the other posts.

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Diet and exercise play a much bigger role in this than most people realize. I rarely am unhappy, but the times I am, it's almost ALWAYS because I'm not exercising. But it's easy not to realize what's going on, because you will rarely "feel like you need exercise". You just need to recognize it, and make a few changes. At least it will give you something to do to take your mind off of things for a bit each day.

Also, maybe a fresh start in something new? I just joined a bowling league, and it was way less lame than I had imagined.

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Do your work benefits include a counseling service? You should use that if so, it will actually help protect your work situation a little...

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Agree. If you are at a decent-sized company, go see HR.

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Gonna have to agree - bowling league is the answer

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From someone who has battled depression before, go see a psychologist.

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I second this... Ive had some rough patches recently with my job and breaking up with a gf of 3 years. If i hit the gym, it doesnt bother me anymore. I just feel so much better about myself. Take up hobbies that take your mind off [censored] so once your centered, you can go out and not feel so badly

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Gonna have to agree - bowling league is the answer

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My friend has a bowling league team that I've subbed for once or twice. I suggested a name for the team, and they used it.

Snakes on a Lane, baby.

Seriously OP - this sounds like something fun and social you could get involved with...or do something like this.

ScottieK

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Go see a shrink. There's zero reason not to. Talk to your boss, tell them you're going through a depression, but are seeking help. If you have had any kind of successful career there before this, they'll normally work with you on this..

Ray

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Diet can have a big impact on how you feel. I really HATE McDonalds food, it makes me feel so unmotivated/gross/lazy.

Bowling is not a bad idea. It's good to have an activity that you enjoy outside of work and poker. I just joined a co-ed soccer league. It's awesome. I hadn't played in 10 years but I love it. Joining a gym is also good. It's an easy and natural way to feel good.

Work/smork- who cares- don't sweat the small stuff. I've worked with so many D-bags. I honestly don't have any interest in hanging out with people from work out side of the office. It's always lame. It's so hard to talk about drugs and bitches when you know whatever you say is going to circulate the office.

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Gonna have to agree - bowling league is the answer

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My friend has a bowling league team that I've subbed for once or twice. I suggested a name for the team, and they used it.

Snakes on a Lane, baby.

Seriously OP - this sounds like something fun and social you could get involved with...or do something like this.

ScottieK

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Another good team name - The Hezballers!

I can't give you any more advice than everyone else. I can tell you this cliche, the long journeys start with the first step. Monday when you go into the office, throw yourself into some work and try to do an extra-good job. At lunch go for a walk for a couple blocks, then do another project in the afternoon. In the evening, go hit a weight room. Repeat the process for a week and see how you do.

I say this as advice for you, but I'm actually going to do it myself because I've been feeling exactly like the OP lately. Thanks, OOT.

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I think the most important think is to try to make friends outside of work. It sounds like you are lonely and the only people you interact with are your coworkers, so you are looking for a social outlet there and not finding it and that is making you unhappy at work. But ultimately that is not a problem with your work so much as your life outside of work.

Do you have people you used to be friends with but haven't been in touch with for a while? Maybe you can send them email/ call them and try to get together to do something and hopefully you can build some sort of social network. Otherwise, you are going to need to find ways of meeting new people although I have been there (starting a new job in a strange city) and it is hard.

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See a shrink. Was the best decision of my life.

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I would hold off on telling your boss, this is highly dependant on your relationship with them, and what you do. You can't untell them, and you might regret it later when things get better. Just a thought.

Has anything changed in your life to lead you down this path?

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awesome.

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I would hold off on telling your boss, this is highly dependant on your relationship with them, and what you do. You can't untell them, and you might regret it later when things get better. Just a thought.

Has anything changed in your life to lead you down this path?

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Update and trip report.

Talked to my boss, he's very understanding and fully supportive, so that already makes things much better. Talked to our Doc, he set me up with a psych consult and gave me a prescription to see how that might help. Go back next friday for a follow up. Thanks for all the great advice on here, knew it was right to post, and it actually helped me to open up with the Doc.

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Update and trip report.

Talked to my boss, he's very understanding and fully supportive, so that already makes things much better. Talked to our Doc, he set me up with a psych consult and gave me a prescription to see how that might help. Go back next friday for a follow up. Thanks for all the great advice on here, knew it was right to post, and it actually helped me to open up with the Doc.

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Fantastic! Have a great weekend and hope things go up up up from here.

Ray

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Try killing a hobo this weekend. It might be all you need to turn things around.

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Try killing a hobo this weekend. It might be all you need to turn things around.

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This made me laugh, but I think a better idea would be go get drunk with a hobo. Think of how happy you'll make them, and imagine all the stories

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Listen to Slim Shady when he says "I think you need some counseling To help your ass from bouncing off the walls when you get down some"

Seriously dude, see a doctor.
Good luck pal.

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Approach life with a thumbs up attitude and double down on fun!

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Gold!

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do some drugs and get a hooker, suck it up

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Classic depression case. Get on some meds and start exercising. you'll feel great.

The only person that can make you feel bad is YOU!!!!!

Starty living man, waht you got to lose..... besides everything?