Found out my roomate\'s GF used to be a mega-ho
 

My roommate, Joe, is a very monogamous guy. In his lifetime he has had 3, currently on his third, stable long-term relationships. He has done very little hooking up when not in one of these relationships. He looks down on slutty behavior.

Joe has been seriously dating this girl, Maria, for almost 3 years. In this time Maria has presented herself as a virtuous and high-class woman. She has denounced the slutty behavior of a few of her friends and made comments about how she would never have a threesome. Joe plans on asking Maria to marry him soon. I have never had any reason to suspect infidelity in the relationship and they are very close. I am happy for them.

So, this weekend I run into an acquaintance who knew Maria before Joe or I ever met her. With a sly look on his face he asks me how Joe and Maria are doing. I ask him why he is interested. He is drunk and proceeds to detail the prolific sexual exploits of Maria prior to her meeting Joe. This acquintance is in a local band and is also tight with several other local bands. This group of guys used to call her the "BJ Queen" as she fellated most of them and f'd almost as many. He goes on to recount tales of double teams and multiple guys in the same night. All of this taking place over a period of about one year.

At that point I did not know whether to believe him or if he was just making up stories. Later I met up with two other friends of mine, both girls, who knew Maria during the time period of the alleged exploits. They confirmed the stories almost exactly. They estimated that during this time period Maria banged roughly 20-25 guys.

All this info has made me sick to my stomach. I feel like Maria has misrepresented herself to Joe and others. I know that if Joe knew this info he would be devastated. Intellectually I know that this should not matter and she has been a good GF to Joe. However, my gut reaction is to be appalled. I don't know how I will look Maria in the eye again.

I wish I could unlearn this info. Please OOT help me feel better about this. Any comments or suggestions are most welcome.

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Tag it yourself. Take one for the team.

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ask her for a bj

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Tough one.

1. Part of me says that people change, and if they have been great for each other, that's all that matters, and rocking the boat would be a mistake.

2. Another part of me says that honest communciation is important, and if she has lied or misrepresented her past, that's a bad thing and she should tell your roomate.

If I were you, I would flip a coin.

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Leave it be. If she's been cool with him for 3 years she digs him, and he doesn't need to know anything about him. If you need to get it off of your chest I'd suggest confronting her about it. But tread lightly there. You don't want her blowing up about it and telling him what you were saying... yeah just don't say anything.

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ask her for a bj

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and tell her if she doesn't, you're telling Joe about her past.

You'll find out the truth.

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If he is happy, you can't tell him. Nothing to be gained...

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Why the heck would you want to ruin what they have now?

What could possibly be gained?

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hes gonna marry the broad who used to be a cum dumpster. WHose to say she isnt any more?

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If he is a good friend, I don't see how not telling him could even be an option. If he is not a good friend, or if he pisses you off along the way, get drunk, then call him, on there 1 year marriage anniversary.

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Ugh, all these Dear Abby threads suck and are all fictitious anyway... ***

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ask her for a bj

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and tell her if she doesn't, you're telling Joe about her past.

You'll find out the truth.

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You are both nuts.












get multiple blowjobs. This is not single suck information we are dealing with.

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Unless she is currently cheating on him, just rack it up to immature behavior. Let it go.

That said, she really should be honest with him. I know of a happily married couple, been married 11 years. She was a groupie for a minor league baseball team before she met him. But he knows about it. And she has changed.

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Why the heck would you want to ruin what they have now?

What could possibly be gained?

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I don't want to ruin anything but this info has given me an itch that I can't scratch. How do you walk around knowing this when your best friend doesn't?

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is this one of those KKF trolls?

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Ugh, all these Dear Abby threads suck and are all fictitious anyway... ***

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Wish it was

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Unless she is currently cheating on him, just rack it up to immature behavior. Let it go.

That said, she really should be honest with him. I know of a happily married couple, been married 11 years. She was a groupie for a minor league baseball team before she met him. But he knows about it. And she has changed.

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minor? As in 8 year old baseball leagues? WTF

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is this one of those KKF trolls?

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if so kkf is slippin

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Since this doesn't seem to be a Super Classified Secret, I think you should take her off to the side and let her in on what everybody (except apparently Joe) "knows" about her past.

Tell her you aren't going to tell Joe, but one of your friends might let it slip after a few too many.

Then let it drop.

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Bro's before ho's.

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Since this doesn't seem to be a Super Classified Secret, I think you should take her off to the side and let her in on what everybody (except apparently Joe) "knows" about her past.

Tell her you aren't going to tell Joe, but one of your friends might let it slip after a few too many.

Then let it drop.

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Pretty much just what I was going to say. You get it off your chest and hopefully clear up the situation between them.

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Unless she is currently cheating on him, just rack it up to immature behavior. Let it go.

That said, she really should be honest with him. I know of a happily married couple, been married 11 years. She was a groupie for a minor league baseball team before she met him. But he knows about it. And she has changed.

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minor? As in 8 year old baseball leagues? WTF

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No, sicko. Minor league baseball

I first found out when we were at their house and a MLB baseball game was on the TV. She casually mentioned to my wife that she [censored] one of the guys in the game on TV back when he was in AAA. I was in another room and found out later. But the husband later confirmed that he knew.

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Unless she is currently cheating on him, just rack it up to immature behavior. Let it go.

That said, she really should be honest with him. I know of a happily married couple, been married 11 years. She was a groupie for a minor league baseball team before she met him. But he knows about it. And she has changed.

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this is key

if "Joe" doesn't know about it, the relationship already has problems.

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Don't do it. People change. However, if you ever think she's cheating, you pull out the skeleton.

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Unless she is currently cheating on him, just rack it up to immature behavior. Let it go.

That said, she really should be honest with him. I know of a happily married couple, been married 11 years. She was a groupie for a minor league baseball team before she met him. But he knows about it. And she has changed.

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this is key

if "Joe" doesn't know about it, the relationship already has problems.

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It has problems only if the woman says she never was a ho in the past. One can be currently against ho-like behavior even though they exhibited ho-like behavior earlier in their lives.

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Stick it in her pooper.

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You should definitely tell him. There is no chance they haven't had the conversation about past sex and obviously she lied to him about it.

and according to you this is important to him and it matters alot. well, too freakin bad for her this is your pal you're talking about. Would he want you to tell him? hell yes he would and so would you if he knew something about your fiance's past that would devastate you.

It's no different than the standard " should I tell my friend his wife is cheating"? It's a lie going on and you should tell your friend.

It doesn't matter that it is about sex, it matters that this is a LIE about her past that would devastate him. It could be about anything but the lie not cool.

It could be that she voted republican, or that she went to harvard and not yale, or that she used to be vegetarian. If these things are so important to him and part of what he wants from a woman, it's not fair to him that she has lied to him and if you know about it you should tell him . He may decide he loves her enough to accept her but he should know.


she should also dump his ass if he can't live with her sexual past. who wants to be with someone will judge you and hate you for your past? Either way the situation is screwed .

Tell him..

natedogg

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Stick it in her pooper.

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What? Your thump?

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I think people make poor choices when they are young but people can grow up and change for the better. If she is good to your friend and hasnt done anything to make you think otherwise then I would let it go.

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Yes yes exactly, put your thump her pooper!

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your friend is just gonna hate you for bringing this up no matter what. just forget it.

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ask her for a bj

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and tell her if she doesn't, you're telling Joe about her past.



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If she gives you a BJ, secretly videotape it and give the tape to your buddy.

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ask her for a bj

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and tell her if she doesn't, you're telling Joe about her past.



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If she gives you a BJ, secretly videotape it and post it.

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FYP <font color="white"> (rookie) </font>

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Unsurprisingly, this thread got tarded up fast. OP, maybe that's what you wanted, who knows.

I'd say keep it to yourself. A BJ queen one year doesn't mean she's following guys out to their cars five years later. She likes suckin dick, I mean why shouldn't she? Probably tastes like chicken to the ladies.

I can't imagine a positive outcome to you sharing this with any of your IRL friends.

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This is a classic case of mind your effing business. How the eff do you know that this chick has not already told Joe? Do you think your best friend would actually tell you "hey best buddy my future wife is a [censored] dude"? Of course not. And she has every right to be high class and denounce slutty behavior, people change. Seriously, let it go and get a life of your own.

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They are happy - just let them get on with it.

Any intervention on your part can only have a negative effect.

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your friend is just gonna hate you for bringing this up no matter what. just forget it.

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They are happy - just let them get on with it.

Any intervention on your part can only have a negative effect.

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agreed. You're looking at this from your point of view - you know something about her that bothers you, but that's not important, you aren't in the relationship with her. I can understand how it's tough to keep something like this from your friend, and it seems as if you're betraying him yourself by not telling him, but what possible good can come of him knowing?

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It's not your place to get involved. They've been together for 3 years, after all. Try to forget what you learned. She's almost certainly not proud of her past, and is probably terrified that her current boyfriend will one day find out about it.

I'm guessing you disliked this girl even before you found out this information? Is that why you're thinking about spilling the beans?

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I would want to know if I were the guy. If you didn't tell me, you would no longer be my friend.