Having a GF while in college
 

What are some of your experiences with having a GF while in college? Wasted four years? Wasted two years and lived it up the last two? Had a great 4 years while having a gf and are still together?

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I went to college single. Had a shitton of fun my first 3 months. Started dating a girl in November who was anti-drinking. Lost all my freshman friends and it turned out this girl was psycho. Would get upset at me for hanging out with my friends when home for break instead of talking to her on the phone 10 hours a day. Only thing in my life I wish I could go back and change.

Enjoy college's fruits for a while before getting in a relationship. Also, I think there is a newer forum for this!

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If you like a girl enough to want to be her boyfriend, then do it. If not, then, um don't.

You just don't want some sort of relationship that's like a marriage where you always have to know where the other one is and you never do stuff on your own. You will never again have as many social options as you will in college.

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Don't do it.

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I'm going into sophmore year with a girl I've been dating since middle of senior year in HS.

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Looking back on college I wish I would have gotten laid more, but am very glad I didn't have a girlfriend for my frosh/soph years. This is where you meet some of your closest friends for the rest of your life.

I know people that were in a relationship from the beginning to the end of college and regret missing out on a lot of stuff. Small sample size, yes, I know.

There's a lot more options junior and senior years anyways. Hang out and party early and settle down late. Or hang out and party the whole time.

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I'm going into sophmore year with a girl I've been dating since middle of senior year in HS.

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Well, do what you want. Just don't let her take all your time. It's not just about banging as many chicks as you can. It's also about spending time with the guys and taking part in other aspects of college. If you often find yourself not doing things with the guys because your gf wants something, then it's time to seriously reconsider.

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I'm going into sophmore year with a girl I've been dating since middle of senior year in HS.

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Well, do what you want. Just don't let her take all your time. It's not just about banging as many chicks as you can. It's also about spending time with the guys and taking part in other aspects of college. If you often find yourself not doing things with the guys because your gf wants something, then it's time to seriously reconsider.

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Well then I'm fine, because I play college baseball and have a great group of friends. My gf goes to a different school so it isn't like we are around each other all the time. We both had a great time at our colleges last yr and we worked well together. The only thing that is tough is the seperation factor where jealousy can take over.

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I'm going into sophmore year with a girl I've been dating since middle of senior year in HS.

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Well, do what you want. Just don't let her take all your time. It's not just about banging as many chicks as you can. It's also about spending time with the guys and taking part in other aspects of college. If you often find yourself not doing things with the guys because your gf wants something, then it's time to seriously reconsider.

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Well then I'm fine, because I play college baseball and have a great group of friends. My gf goes to a different school so it isn't like we are around each other all the time. We both had a great time at our colleges last yr and we worked well together. The only thing that is tough is the seperation factor where jealousy can take over.

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This was seriously the thing I left out, because I thought for sure people were smart enough not to keep the HS gf in a long-distance other college relationship.

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Some people I've talked to have advised against it, but it has worked out so far.

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Don't do it.

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if you go to the same school i think its doable, don't do it long distance...

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This was seriously the thing I left out, because I thought for sure people were smart enough not to keep the HS gf in a long-distance other college relationship.

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Yes, this is probably one of the worst things you can do in college. You aren't even getting laid on a regular basis, and it's almost a 100%er that your girl is getting some lovin' at her school.

The people in college that had "boy/girlfriends at another school" always cheated on them. Sometimes followed by the boy/girlfriend coming to the college and causing some type of scene. That last part is always great.

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Eh. I see that a lot to, but we both have been faithful. It's just at a point where it's either end it or stay together.

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Eh. I see that a lot to, but we both have been faithful. It's just at a point where it's either end it or stay together.

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I don't like to break people up, but... this one's easy. Go to college.

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Some people I've talked to have advised against it, but it has worked out so far.

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I remember saying this to myself.

It might work out, but the odds are far and away in favor of it not working out.

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Eh. I see that a lot to, but we both have been faithful. It's just at a point where it's either end it or stay together.

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If you're at that point, and phrasing it like that, you should probably just break up. If you two are "meant for each other" then you'll have the next 60 years to get back together again.

For me personally, considering breaking up = breaking up. As soon as I think it, that means it's time.

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-EV in college...Start looking when you become a senior.

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Don't do it for at least the first two years.

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I've thought about these things, but it's tough after 2 years. We have had a very good relationship with problem sjust like any other couple and I know she wants to stay together. If I'm single I always say I'll play the field and shyt, but when it comes down to it I'm usually a guy who likes to have one girl.

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watch the movie Road Trip.

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-EV in college...Start looking when you become a senior.

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correct...
this man sleeps with hot women, listen to him

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I've thought about these things, but it's tough after 2 years. We have had a very good relationship with problem sjust like any other couple and I know she wants to stay together. If I'm single I always say I'll play the field and shyt, but when it comes down to it I'm usually a guy who likes to have one girl.

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Mr November,

I am currently in year 2 of a relationship with a girl who goes to another school. She will be coming here starting next year though. I'm sure everyone in this thread thinks I'm an idiot too..but I've enjoyed things so far.

Plus, I realize that if for some reason we did break up, I wouldn't regret doing what I've done during this time becuase I have enjoyed it.

Things are going well for me thus far, and I wish you the best. Don't let the haters put doubt in your mind. If you want to do it, you can.

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i did it and it was fine.

it was nice having a steady stream of good sex and having someone to talk to after getting a bad grade or having a bad day. you can still go to parties. i don't understand the need of some people to spread their seed like crazy.

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i did it and it was fine.

it was nice having a steady stream of good sex and having someone to talk to after getting a bad grade or having a bad day. you can still go to parties. i don't understand the need of some people to spread their seed like crazy.

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I did it, it worked, we are now engaged. It definately has its difficult moments, but the positives far outweigh any negatives. If at any time you are thinking she is taking up too much time or taking away from your college experience, you should probably end it, or at least pause it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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Some people I've talked to have advised against it, but it has worked out so far.

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haha, godspeed dude. I think we are getting into lottery terms here of this working out for any reasonable time. only a matter of time before you or her meet someone else, get drunk, have the oh [censored] moment and then fizzle out...actually not fizzle out, usually end in a bang of heartbreak or some crap, for one of you.

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btw I know nothing of who you two are, just saying...long distance, couple years of college left. you have some landmines to dodge.

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Dude, sever all ties. There's so much muff to be had. no reason to cloister yourself. Bang away.

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Dude, sever all ties. There's so much muff to be had. no reason to cloister yourself. Bang away.

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its not just about the banging. Ive dated many many girls, and Ive only met a few, maybe 3 out of a ton that I truly cared for in a deep meaningful sort of way. And my time with them was far greater than my time banging any of the hottest girls Ive been with. So if you can do it and you have a great relationship, and you are clear enough in the head and see it for what it is, and you still think its great and not a in the moment thing...then hold on. Do what you can. But most of the time it is not that, and long distance and being in college, and if you are semi attractive...makes it hard.

But if its for you, find a way, it will be tough, but nothing meaningful in life is ever easy. (contrary to popular belief, banging hot chicks is not meaningful, nor hard to do...doesnt count)

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one word: -ev

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What are some of your experiences with having 4 GFs at the same time while in college?

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I slutted it up freshman year, and then at the begining of last year got a GF. it was the best decision i've made so far at school. having a good girlfriend is awesome.

ps. sex everyday is +EV

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One of the great things about college is all the people you meet and the different things you experience. You may have a good relationship with this girl and end up marrying her, but you will always wonder what it would have been like to date other girls.

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Ended up in a relationship that lasted my entire sophomore year and it sucked. Mostly it was because she sucked and I was too young/ignorant to end it sooner. Instead of regretting it, I just say that is what I learned from that relationship. My junior and senior year were much better b/c of it and I never stayed with a girl longer than 2 weeks if it wasn't going to work. Best strategy I ever had.

Even if she is the best girl ever, college is not condusive to maintaining a steady relationship for most people. You will grow up and learn a lot (socially, and maybe some intellectual stuff) in your time at school. There is no rulebook, just be sure it is what you really want while you are there.

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I agree that it's bad to be "joined at the hip"... but there is more to life than just banging anything with boobs.