I left my number for a hostess for the first time...
 

so yesterday, after a long soccer match, i decide i want sushi, bad. so i go down to my favorite santa cruz sushi'ery Mobo Sushi for some delicious delights. im wearing my sweaty fc barcelona jersey and an old sweatshirt over it with my addias soccer shorts and shiney nike boots, so im sure i look like a total tool.

anyways, i immediately recognize the hostess as this girl i dated in high school. im making a takeout order so i go to her. she looks up with a blank face for a second, but then breaks into a "oh my god, i didnt recognize you" gives me a hug and tells me i look great(f yeah!). this girl is just like a total gorgeous surfer chick, works at a gym and was in absouletly fabulous shape(i just checked to see if she had a myspace for picture purposes, she doesnt).

so anyways, its incredibly busy and while im sitting next to the server station she is gone pretty much the entire time seating people. she finally grabs my order and i give her my platinum citibank card(balla!, jk) and she rings me up, gives me the reciept, tells me it was great to see me and hurries off to help more people.

i give her a 5 dollar tip on an 18 dollar order and on the back write "(her name), give me a call sometime! 555-3865. -ryan."

it was the first time ive tried a play like this as i usually think its kind of silly. decent spot?

rj

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Where did you write it?

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I prefer handing them my number directly, but this is probably a good spot to make some sort of move in general.

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RJ - How is this not a decent spot?

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anyways, i immediately recognize the hostess as this girl i dated in high school.

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gives me a hug and tells me i look great(f yeah!).

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tells me it was great to see me

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-Al

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Giving your number to a hostess you have previously dated doesn't qualify.

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Do it on the front of the receipt, not the back. Or better yet, just say it. My fear is that she'd never flip the damn thing over to read what you wrote.

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Is it common practice to tip on takeout orders?

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PITTM,

I actually saw a guy do this not too long ago, and coincidentally it was at a Sushi/Hibachi spot. It our waitress that this happened to and we were here first table after reading it and she told us all about it and how cheesy it was. She then went to all of the hostesses and other waitresses and showed them the note and they all laughed and sighed. When she came back again she said she didn't understand it, if someone wanted to actually take her out, and/or get to know her, they need to have the balls to actually do this in person...leaving notes to and her female co-workers was a sign of weakness is basically what I got out of it.

Also, my gf was a bartender/waitress for awhile a few years ago and she hated this as well. But hey, it may work for you!

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Is it common practice to tip on takeout orders?

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Wow, didn't notice that. No way do I give a tip here. Write "you will get a tip if you call me."

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Do it on the front of the receipt, not the back. Or better yet, just say it. My fear is that she'd never flip the damn thing over to read what you wrote.

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when i saw her about 2 years ago she had the kind of hick boyfriend who would come destroy someone if they talked to her gf. this way i left the contact completely up to her. i left the reciept in one of those black credit card/bill jackets with the back/my writing face up.


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Is it common practice to tip on takeout orders?

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not when they already have a 1.50 takeout fee. and not that much.

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I prefer handing them my number directly, but this is probably a good spot to make some sort of move in general.

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eh, as i said, she ran off to help more people right away and was very busy.

rj

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Money line:

No Call (-500)
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Call (+480)

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Is it common practice to tip on takeout orders?

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Yes, if the hostess has to get your order, it is nice to tip them (a smalish amount is ok). However, it is not mandatory, and if you don't tip, they won't get as mad at you as a waiter/waitress would. I tip in these situations, but I think a lot of people don't...

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Giving your number to a hostess you have previously dated doesn't qualify.

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This was the main point of my previous post. But now I realize you may be asking, per Tdarko's post, if this was a good tactic?

Even though she was really busy - you still could've given her your number in a more direct fashion (e.g. "hey, here's my number [hand her your card or whatever] give me a call sometime, great seeing you"). Cause that would take like 4 seconds and probably be more effective.

Tpir - that feels about right.

-Al

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Amazing story man I'd put the house on no call even at -500.

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You really should have left a napkin with "Backdoor Beauty?" written on it.

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You really should have left a napkin with "Backdoor Beauty?" written on it.

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Excellent.

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PITTM,

I actually saw a guy do this not too long ago, and coincidentally it was at a Sushi/Hibachi spot. It our waitress that this happened to and we were here first table after reading it and she told us all about it and how cheesy it was. She then went to all of the hostesses and other waitresses and showed them the note and they all laughed and sighed. When she came back again she said she didn't understand it, if someone wanted to actually take her out, and/or get to know her, they need to have the balls to actually do this in person...leaving notes to and her female co-workers was a sign of weakness is basically what I got out of it.

Also, my gf was a bartender/waitress for awhile a few years ago and she hated this as well. But hey, it may work for you!

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darko.

i agree that the vast majority of waitresses would hate this in most situations. i posted this because in my mind it was a situation where doing this actually made sense and was asking for confirmation from others if that actually did make sense in this spot.

rj

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Is it common practice to tip on takeout orders?

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Wow, didn't notice that. No way do I give a tip here. Write "you will get a more than just the tip if you call me."

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It makes less sense than just waiting 2 minutes when she's free and saying hey give me your number lets go out sometime.

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this post has made me realize that i might consider business cards.

rj

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This thread should be called "I gave my number to my x-girlfriend."

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we went on 2 dates. not gf.

rj

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Money line:

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$5 on "Call" please!

And I always tip a little on takeout.

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Very weak.

Getting her number > Giving her your number > Leaving your number for her to find only after you are gone

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Money line:

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Call (+480)

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$5 on "Call" please!

And I always tip a little on takeout.

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ill take 5 on call also. and i usually give a buck or 2, but not 30+%.

rj

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Very weak.

Getting her number > Giving her your number > Leaving your number for her to find only after you are gone

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The book with one piece of paper, with my number written on it face up was put directly into her hands. if she misses the number it is by some act of god.

rj

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Very weak.

Getting her number > Giving her your number > Leaving your number for her to find only after you are gone

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The book with one piece of paper, with my number written on it face up was put directly into her hands. if she misses the number it is by some act of god.

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I was talking about the part where you need to be completely out of her sight when she finds it, in case she rejects you.

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Is this the sushi place next to Trader Joe's?

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Is this the sushi place next to Trader Joe's?

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yes, its the place that made brighten the crazy dragon roll.

rj

also, i just realized that your avatar appears to be the 100/200 section of bay101, who is that sitting at a dining table?

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Is this the sushi place next to Trader Joe's?

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yes, its the place that made brighten the crazy dragon roll.

rj

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How do you get those awesome stadium seats behind the sushi bar? Since you have an "in" now could we get those if I was in town?

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Is this the sushi place next to Trader Joe's?

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yes, its the place that made brighten the crazy dragon roll.

rj

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How do you get those awesome stadium seats behind the sushi bar? Since you have an "in" now could we get those if I was in town?

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if they are empty you can sit at them. theyve never been empty when i was there. i would love to take evan to lunch/dinner there if he learned how to dial numbers while on the west coast.

rj

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i would love to take evan to lunch/dinner there if he learned how to dial numbers while on the west coast.

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Replace "Evan" with girl's name and you're off running.

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i would love to take evan to lunch/dinner there if he learned how to dial numbers while on the west coast.

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Replace "Evan" with girl's name and you're off running.

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i dont consider "the resturant she works at" to be a fantastic date spot. besides the fact that it actually would be an excellent date spot if she didnt work there. plus i miss evan, so through these deductions i would still take him over her, for this specific dinner trip. any other place in town and she wins :P

rj

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Oh I know, I was just poking fun at your mancrush. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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Funny, I actually did the same for the first time with a bartender on Friday. I go to this place Indigo all the time and often flirt with the same bartender. I was quite drunk this time around, so I thought what the fxck, I´m going to leave this girl my number. I write it with my name on a napkin and hand it to her. At the time, she smiled large, and I thought I was the man.

That is until immediately after when my friends informed me that I was so drunk, I actually handed it to the wrong bartender (although yes, she was female as well, fxckers).

Yeah, I am smooth.

Oscar

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Is this the sushi place next to Trader Joe's?

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yes, its the place that made brighten the crazy dragon roll.

rj

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How do you get those awesome stadium seats behind the sushi bar? Since you have an "in" now could we get those if I was in town?

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if they are empty you can sit at them. theyve never been empty when i was there. i would love to take evan to lunch/dinner there if he learned how to dial numbers while on the west coast.

rj

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Dude I called you and you didn't answer. Then I sent you a text message and you didn't answer.

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welcome to crazy world, population evan.

i called you back twice and you didnt answer either time.

come back soon. we now have huge taco equity at t san.

rj

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OP, leaving the number wasn the greatest move, even if she sees it, gives her too many outs not to call. IMO with girls, you have to be direct almost put them on the spot and close the deal. Also the unusual $5 tip would be okay if you didnt leave your number, but now it can almost be construed as a bribe. And platinum visa is as common as Poker Stars platinum (Amex is a little more "balla").

On the upside I have found when they say, "you look great" most of the times they mean it literally. There are certain things people say to be polite, this is def. not one of them. That shouldve been your cue to close her.

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welcome to crazy world, population evan.

i called you back twice and you didnt answer either time.

come back soon. we now have huge taco equity at t san.

rj

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My phone was off a lot of the time because the battery was low.

I don't know what taco equity is but it sounds delicious.

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OP, leaving the number wasn the greatest move, even if she sees it, gives her too many outs not to call. IMO with girls, you have to be direct almost put them on the spot and close the deal. Also the unusual $5 tip would be okay if you didnt leave your number, but now it can almost be construed as a bribe. And platinum visa is as common as Poker Stars platinum (Amex is a little more "balla").

On the upside I have found when they say, "you look great" most of the times they mean it literally. There are certain things people say to be polite, this is def. not one of them. That shouldve been your cue to close her.

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i tried to be as indirect as possible, as im almost 100% sure she has a bf due to me knowing she did a year ago and it being impossible for her to not get hit on ever. im really not exaggerating when i say how cute she is. shes the cutest girl ive ever dated. this situation was ideal because i think giving her outs not to call me was necessary.

rj