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I can tell you for sure she wouldn't care if I did it. Again, we do trust each other a lot so she wouldn't be worried about me doing anything and who cares if they see my dick? It's not like girls are big pervs who want to see guy's dicks.

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Bernie, normally I would agree with you (on this situation and any other post about the ladies you make). However, this changes things a lot. I was very rebellious and very loyal when I was in highschool/undergrad. I've never cheated on anyone. However, if a girl told me not to skinny dip I would definitely skinny dip. It's just the way I was.

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It's a matter of respecting a g/f or wife's wishes. If she doesn't like it, why do it just to show you can do it? I guess it depends on just how much you like her to make her feel that way. Skinnydipping wouldn't mean that much to me to put her through that. What's the point? To prove to her that you can do it? Not worth it, imo. I went through that 'testing to show I can do it regardless of what you say' with my parents. My g/f isn't in that category. If I have to prove stuff like this to her, I figure we wouldn't be together long. It's spiteful. Where does spite fit in a relationship?

If OPs g/f knows it will bother him, what's her big thing about doing it? Again, it's just skinnydipping. Is it really that important to her?

And yes, chicks are pervs. Even more so if alcohol is involved. Doesn't mean they all are or anything will definitely happen, but it opens another door to possibility. You can't claim suprise if something does happen given the element.

If she's going to do it, and you're only mildly annoyed by it and it will easily pass, don't worry about it. But since you posted it on a forum, I wonder just how much it bothers you?

As 1 poster mentioned, it's about what you value.

Me? I wouldn't like it. I wouldn't do it unless my g/f was there. I wouldn't want to do it without her. But that's just me.

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ive never done it, but i think of sd'ing as a sexual thing, not a thing i do w. a bunch of friends. so, no i don't think its cool... but i guess if yall didn't see it in a sexual lite then itd be different.

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There isn't anything all that sexual about skinny dipping most of the time, even though those doing it usually hope there will be.

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well i think everyone thinks its exciting and sexy and that's why they want to do it. If she's already your GF then why expose yourself to the obviously uncomfortable situation of being with her ex and with other guys?

I would do it to get to her, but if you don't have to, then I vote no.

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They are breaking into a pool and going swimming. She said there was a possibility of them skinny dipping and she would go along with it.

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If they are breaking into a pool, they then KNOW they may be swimming, and should pack accordingly. Ergo, skinny-dipping is the goal, not breaking into the pool and there "may" be skinny dipping. This is like saying "We're going to the Chicken Ranch and we "may" get a hooker.



Skinny-dipping is a drunken-spur-of-the-moment thing you do with people you are curious about or interested in, period.

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I used to go skinny dipping with my cousins all the time when I was like 7-12. There was a water hole, we wanted to feel like fishies, and we didn't care about seeing each others wee wees etc. maybe that's an innocence of youth thing, but its easy to skinny dip with friends or family and not have it be a sexual thing.

That said, I'm not ok with a girlfriend skinnying with some dudes I don't know.

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But since you posted it on a forum, I wonder just how much it bothers you?

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Ehh... depends on who it was. I pretty much hold NT's opinions. I agree with you bernie. I'm just saying I was rebelious as all hell when I was younger. But you are right the gf doesn't fall in that category. I guess I just haven't tested those lines enough... which may or may not be a good thing.

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I'm suprised that so many people are against this. if you're sure of your girlfreind's fidelity, and she's comfortable with strangers seeing her "wet and naked" you probably should be, too, if you're in a relationship with this girl... and be ready to see others and be seen "wet and naked"... it kind of sounds like a hang-up on your part, from here.

she's with YOU, after all... right?

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My final point, does she have breasts? Because thats where the guys eyes will be, if that doesnt bother you then i envy you.

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Cant believe No wins.

OOT you are uptight, insecure and paranoid.

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I want a gf not a whore

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She took her clothes off and went for a swim.

Perhaps you should consider becoming a Muslim as they seem to share the same sentiments as you about how women should deport themselves.

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HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL NO!


edit: Are you insane?

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Are you above the age of 12.

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So there going to go break into a swimming pool to skinny dip? Are they 14 and 15 year old's or something?

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She took her clothes off and went for a swim.

Perhaps you should consider becoming a Muslim as they seem to share the same sentiments as you about how women should deport themselves.

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heehee.. seriously, are you guys like 12 or something?
If these are her close friends that she hangs out with then I'd probably be ok with it, since like you said you can totally trust her. If it was with a bunch of guys whom I don't know then I'd have a problem with it. Having guys see her naked is the least of your problems.

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She thinks it doesn't matter if people see her naked because she's not doing anything with them. How do I make her understand?

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Then I'm sure she wouldnt mind you snapping off some photos while she's in the shower and then posting them on oot.

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No but I'd be fine with my ex-girlfriend going skinny dipping with guys, and I think you know what I mean.

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I would NOT be ok with her seeing other guys with possibly bigger diks naked and that's pretty much the only thing that would bother me.

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With you not present? Then no.

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actually i think it's a little strange that she would want to do this without you around. i would have questions about why she finds it necessary and what is appealing about it. it's something already planned, why not just bring a suit. obviously they all like the idea of being swimming naked together enough to plan the 'possibility' for some reason. this is hard for me to relate to, so i can't really say much about that.

the fact that she asked you first doesn't necessarily mean she has honest intentions. but it is good that she wants your approval and is being honest in asking about it. even if she won't cheat on you, there is definitely something she does like about this idea other than going for a swim.

it seems to bother you about other guys seeing her naked and what they might want/try to do... maybe this is what she likes about it.

so, what if you say no ? will she simply not go ? will this create resentment between the two of you ? also why don't you go with ?

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hmm I think I need a pic of your GF to decide.. :P

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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At least she didn't sleep with the livestock...

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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So they're taking bathing suits, but might decide to take them off? This is her ex-bf, and that group of friends doesn't like you?

I would hate the idea regardless, but I'm weird like that. Given this new information, I would say that you definitely do NOT want this to happen. I know you trust her, but this smells funny. She clearly felt weird about it, or thought you might not like it, which likely means she was thinking it might be wrong. Or thought that you might think it was wrong.

I would be honest with her, and say you wouldn't want her skinny dipping (if that's how you feel), and that the idea makes you uncomfortable. If she has a swimsuit, she can just NOT take it off - that's pretty easy. If they're her friends, they should have no problem with that, right? If she has a problem with that, I would really want to know why.

Pretty simple, IMO.

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Ok, let me see if I have this all down right;

- This group of her friends don't like you.
- It includes her ex-boyfriend.
- She was initially evasive about it.
- You had to press her to get the details, and even suspected something amiss.
- Swimsuits WILL be there, but they may skinny dip anyways.
- She will do it if they want to, e.g. SHE wants to do it.


Sounds TOTALLY innocent.

On an unrelated note, can your GF sleep with me in my bed? Naked? We won't have sex.

Actually, none of this matters. I guarantee she has done this(and worse) before, and will again either way. You either need to break up with her or get used to dating a slut.

But first, stick it in her pooper

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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So they're taking bathing suits, but might decide to take them off? This is her ex-bf, and that group of friends doesn't like you?

I would hate the idea regardless, but I'm weird like that. Given this new information, I would say that you definitely do NOT want this to happen. I know you trust her, but this smells funny. She clearly felt weird about it, or thought you might not like it, which likely means she was thinking it might be wrong. Or thought that you might think it was wrong.

I would be honest with her, and say you wouldn't want her skinny dipping (if that's how you feel), and that the idea makes you uncomfortable. If she has a swimsuit, she can just NOT take it off - that's pretty easy. If they're her friends, they should have no problem with that, right? If she has a problem with that, I would really want to know why.

Pretty simple, IMO.

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i agree with this !

the fact that her friends don't like you, would make me especially uneasy. but mainly because i've had really bad experience in the past being accepting of my boyfriend staying friends with someone that didn't like me.

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WTF!!!! Naked girl+naked guys= SEX or at least touching... Don't be a fool!

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At least she didn't sleep with the livestock...

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Brilliant!

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would she be ok with you skinny dipping with an ex?

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I'm stopping the fight here. I don't have any problem with her going swimming with other guys, just not all naked.

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Man, open your eyes! You're so in denial right now.


[i]The fact that she is socializing with a group of friends who don't like you should raise flags - not to mention that she wants to go skinny dipping with them! Not to mention one of them is her ex-boyfried! Come on...



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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Naked or not, the answer here is not only hell no, but hit the highway and have a nice life, biatch.

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She has a very nice body and DD breasts. No pics. I know she's checked these forums once before and I have a semi-crazy other girl I had a fling with who DOES read my posts. She's posted here before

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Kurosh-- This really does not sound right. Dude ask yourself why are they planning on all getting naked together? How can this not be something more than innocent?

THESE ARE GUYS, THIS ISN'T ABOUT SWIMMING!

I think this bothers you because you know something isn't right

Is this the same old ex G/F who was causing you all the grief some months ago?

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She is feeling you out. You have already given her the trump card by not standing your ground and forbidding it right away. She has lost all respect she might have had for you. The only way you gain the man's place in the relationship now is to break up with her. If you decide to take her back, you are in the driver's seat. If you let this go on, you have given her the pants. If that's OK with you, then proceed, by all means. At this point, your balls are in her purse. You'd better get them back, pronto, before they shrivel.

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Couple of questions:

1) Why are you not going with her?

2) I think the nudity is not the issue I'd be most concerned about...honestly. It's the ex-bf issue that is my problem with it, because we already know that he DOES have a thing for her, and it would be a horrible temptation.

I too have gone skinny-dipping...in fact...we formed an informal group of skinny-dippers at my university...but it was written in stone that it could not be about sex because of the very issues most people have with them. It was more of a drunken, communing-with-nature type idea. So, I have no problem with the nudity aspect...it's the X-BF aspect where it becomes a problem for me.

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I dont even understand why this is a question?

Your GIRLFRIEND is PLANNING on getting NAKED with other GUYS. (including her EX). And they dont want you there.

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

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Many bad signs here

-still "friends" with ex, no way this should fly, any of her guy friends should also be friends of yours, otherwise bad news

-equal group of guys and gals planning to go skinny dipping, swimming with opposite sex equals playful wrestling.....naked......

-friends she hangs out with and you don't, in a good relationship you should have mutual friends except maybe 1 or 2 same sex stragglers from before you met.

-she is asking you for permission to get naked with other guys....hello...

also her asking ahead of time don't mean squat, women like to play sick little mind games, she will get a good laugh knowing she has your permission while she and he are "carousing".

Another thing her male friends need to respect your authority so to speak as the boyfriend, they are gonna think you are a real donk if you let her do this.

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She is feeling you out. You have already given her the trump card by not standing your ground and forbidding it right away. She has lost all respect she might have had for you. The only way you gain the man's place in the relationship now is to break up with her. If you decide to take her back, you are in the driver's seat. If you let this go on, you have given her the pants. If that's OK with you, then proceed, by all means. At this point, your balls are in her purse. You'd better get them back, pronto, before they shrivel.


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put yourself in her shoes and ask these ?'s as if it was the other way around, the whole thing stinks

regardless, good luck to ya

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If my girlfriend asked if she could do somethin like this, I'd slap her then say, "BITCH, GET BACK IN THE KITCHEN."

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This just makes me laugh. The naked part I get - but the wet part?

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I'm not going for a few reasons I don't want to get into but this group of friends does not like me. She didn't ask me if it was ok. She told me she was going swimming tomorrow and was being a little weird about it so I pressed her about it and asked her if they were skinny dipping. She said in swimsuits but the possibility is there and she'd do it if they wanted to.

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Man, open your eyes! You're so in denial right now.


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Is the ex b/f single?

But wouldn't this group be saying nothing but good things about her b/f? [img]/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] Trying to help make her relationship stronger should the subject of her b/f come up? Yeah, right. Leads to the question of why she'd want to hang with a 'group' like this. Not that this will happen, it might not, but still...(I've seen this happen with guys 'consoling' chicks about their current b/fs in attempts to put the b/f in bad light so they look better. Guys tend to be the ones to broach the subject. That's one reason guys listen to chicks crap about their b/fs. Sign of weakness attracts them so they might be able to be next at the plate)

Where is the mutual respect? In this thread I see many saying 'you should trust her', blah blah. Where's her part in it? Where's her role in not putting her boyfriend in that position? How much respect is she showing if she goes anyways regardless of how the OP feels about it? And for what? Skinnydipping with people (dudes) that don't care for her b/f. Especially if she knows he's not fond of it? She doesn't really sound like that great a girlfriend. If she's adamant about going, she sure isn't thinking of you. Trust and respect is not a one way street.

If I was one of the guys skinnydipping with this chick, I'd think it was a little odd that she was there w/o him. I would wonder just how tight you guys are. Some guys would like to test that. Especially single ex b/fs.

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