Does your significant other mind poker?

[Mizzles]

I posted this a few months ago in the mid-high stakes forum. Thought I would try it again here. Apologize to those who have already voted in advance...

I am posting this to get a general idea of how our GF or wives feel about us playing. In my last relationship she absolutely hated poker playing, just couldn't stand it. Is this the norm? Do most women see poker as taking away from or seriously impeding the man/women relationship?

[Shoe]

You forgot the "I am destined to be single forever because I play poker online all day and never get out of the house" option.

[IWEARGOGGLES]

She doesn't mind it. When I show her that I'm making money she understands.

Hence, she studied for finals tonight while I 1-tabled and read SSHE.

Oh, she also doesn't care because her birthday is in a few weeks.

[SoftcoreRevolt]

Does the last one mean "I once got head while multi tabling"?

Because that's the one I voted for.

[a rebours]

hmmmm...

not a lot of options for us heterosexual girls in this poll...

even though I probably anyways fall into that category that Shoe mentioned, "I am destined to be single forever because I play poker online all day and never get out of the house" /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[jrbick]

My wife is INCREDIBLY supportive of my play. It helps that I've never invested ONE penny of our own into my BR, so it's been nothing but a 100% positive return for us. She loves the idea that once I'm able to go full-time that I will be home more which will be great for when we have kids. The late nights used to bother her, but she got used to them just like she did when I worked 3rd shift. Again, she is incredibly understanding/supportive of that as well.

I always spout off different concepts to her, hoping that she will learn to play better. To my surprise, one evening at a for-fun-home-game she absolutely RULED everyone at that table, including myself -- Megenoita can attest to this fact!! LOL. So, be careful gentleman, they listen /images/graemlins/grin.gif I figured she was just bluffing every time she raised and she later told me that not once had she bluffed! She had graduated /images/graemlins/laugh.gif

[MadMat]

My wife hated poker when I first started, and was very worried that I'd become addicted to gambling and was urging me to to stop. it got even worse when I accidently left my neteller account on the PC screen one day and she saw some largish - $500 or so deposits going to sites.

Her attitude changed quite a bit when I paid for a short holiday for her and our two kids (I couldn't get away from work to go with them), and provided thier spending money, all out of my winnings and bonus whoring profits.

Now she says "I'm having an early night/watching TV/going out tonight, why don't you have a game of poker" /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[HesseJam]

Same here.

I started playing without her first knowing it. I knew she would be freaked out because the year before I had a little gambling problem where I lost about 15 grand on the slots. Then, there was this discussion on 2+2 about four months ago about whether to step up and tell the truth and fight for your right to Party, which helped me a lot. She freaked out first but I kept explaining and explaining. Now she is fine with me playing casual poker and winning $ 600 each month. I keep most of the winnings for my bankroll but also did the "holiday pocket money from poker winnings" thing. That helped quite a lot. Even my mother-in-law said to her that me playing poker is fine as long as I am winning. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

[Pokeraddict]

I hid it from her until I nailed the bad beat jackpot at the now dead Big Bet Poker for $6250. Then I came clean with her. It was a lot easier to do with a wad of cash in hand. Now she knows it is how I pay the bills and deals with it. I have even taught her to be a winning 1/2 Stud8 and O8 player.

[climber]

She doesn't play but when i took second in a 30+3 SNG i played with a friend the other day and told her i made $60 she told me to stop wasting time playing so low and to get on the real tables.

LOL

[daveymck]

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She understands it’s a hobby so she doesn’t mind, but wouldnt like me to play in all our free time so I limit my play.

[AAmaz0n]

I was getting a fairly tepid response about my playing until I brought home $1K from my first live tourney win. After that it was still lukewarm for a while, then I won an entry onto the PPM cruise last year. Once we got back it was "don't touch your bankroll, let's keep building it up."

Now I get really good support which really helps when I'm having a downswing.

Shauna

[HesseJam]

http://www.danielsweet.com/forums/avatar.jpg

What kind of a lousy Go match is this?

[archmagi]

she actually encourages me to play.
she thinks that it's good for me to unwind, because i enjoy it a lot.

[VinnyTheFish]

My ex was great about it. Shame she was such a pain in the butt about everything else. But when she was over my place, she wanted the computer off (understandably). SHe also hated that when she fell asleep about 9:00 Sunday nights, I'd sneak back on the computer till about 3 a.m. -- Buddy, I was awake anyway.

But since the break up ... I play cards, golf and coach. These are 3 activities that do not promote meeting an abundance date-worthy people.

Someone should start a match.com for card players! /images/graemlins/grin.gif

edit note: It is also difficult to expalin the computer with 2 screens, and laptop set up to new dates. They are always like - "What do you need that for?" Then, I expalin that have a small online business that requires different screens.

[Sheriff Fatman]

I have the best defence in the world to any complaint - she wears an engagement ring that I would not have been in a position to buy without poker winnings!

"Poker paid for that ring on your finger" is a great line to have in any argument on the issue!

Sheriff

PS: The good lady doesn't play herself but even she has expressed surprise at how much she has picked up from seeing me play and from reluctantly watching it on TV. She could actually be a decent player but has so far never shown any interest in having a go. The only time this ever makes things slightly awkward is when we go to Vegas as I either have to make sure she's happily shopping or being spa-treated when I play or wait until she's asleep before hitting the tables!

[party36master]

My wife understands that this is my hobby, and that I really enjoy it. I used to tell her how much I won, but now I don't because she doesn't care.

I mostly play late at night, she is on an earlier schedule than I am.

I don't like to take too much time away from her.

My play will decrease significantly when the baby comes in August.

[Fitz]

We are currently investing all gambling income towards a vacation home in Mexico. She loves it.

Good luck all,

Fitz

[droolie]

My wife tolerates my play now.

In the beginning she hated it. My comoputer is in our living room and I often play in her presence. I block out my surronds when I play and therefore I rarely hear her when she asks me a question and this drives her crazy. She feels very strongly that the money I'm making isn't worth my not being present enough. A few months ago we made an agreement that I would only play late at night, after the kids were in bed. This has helped a lot. I now usually only play between 10:00pm and 3:00am. She's usually alseep most of that time. Now she only whines when I'm useless in the morning because I stayed up too late getting drunk playing poker (this is a typical Saturday morning for me). We really need the extra income and I've had the opportunity to bail us out of some real financial troubles. I think she looks at it like I do now. It's a second job and the money is reliable. She has definitely gotten over her fear that I will someday "lose it all" and knows my system is working though she can't fathom how.

[HesseJam]

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My wife tolerates my play now.

... My comoputer is in our living room and I often play in her presence. I block out my surronds when I play and therefore I rarely hear her when she asks me a question and this drives her crazy. ....
==> Playing while being in the same room is asking for trouble from my wife for the same reasons. I only play in the study.
... A few months ago we made an agreement that I would only play late at night, after the kids were in bed. This has helped a lot. ...
==> I would never play with my kids being around me. Good agreement!
...She has definitely gotten over her fear that I will someday "lose it all" and knows my system is working though she can't fathom how.
==> It took mine four months to lose that fear

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[pipster]

Well, I was playing poker when we met... and I paid for her dream wedding and honeymoon to Paris with poker winnings. So she is pretty supportive of it now.

[feelixthegreek]

I can't believe the "so I can make us money" option is in the lead. That signals a collective perception problem to me.

It's also the option I voted for, too.

[nmnewbie]

My husband has no problem. While i am not a winning player, (until recently PT had me just slightly neg) the bonuses are nice.

[Asnbabe]

I picked this one, but you know you'd have to replace her with him...but not always -_-

"Her BB/100 is 3.5 and she taught me how to 3 bet and isolate the maniac preflop then check raise the turn and get overcalls on the river; her favorite game is $1000/2000 7-stud HI LOW"

and most girls wont care unless it's a) making them broke or b) killing the quality time you spend together... lucky for me...we can play hands and sit and goes together

[swolfe]

she's pushing me to quit my job and play poker...

[Pokeraddict]

"Poker paid for that ring on your finger" is a great line to have in any argument on the issue!

HAHA I won 2 shamrock 7 jackpots within 15 minutes at a dumpy casino in NC and used the money to buy my wife a nice ring years ago. Now when I come back from playing video poker broke she cant get mad because "Honey if it weren't for video poker you wouldnt have that colorless diamond on your finger"

[groo]

It irritates her right now, but when we spend $5000 on a week long vacation later this year, she'll start cracking the whip to me to the tables, lol.

[Rockfish]

Yeah, she hates how the new big screen TV and home theater rig kinda dominate the living room, but she will begrudgingly admit that it's the best damned TV picture and sound she's ever seen and heard.

[Milo]

Wife is incredibly supportive, although she does expect me to give the kids a bath and get them ready for bed before I go to the Poker Cave to play. The fact that I Neteller money to her once a month to cover the mortgage (and other bills some months) helps quite a bit.

[car ramrod]

looks like I'm not the only one, money can ease the pain for any woman. My girlfriend used to get really mad b/c I played so much, but now I try to only play at night. I am funding a trip to Europe for us in June so that shut her up for a while.

I have tried to get her to learn, but that might be a lost cause. Oh well. I enjoy my time. She doesn't like to be in the room while I play, mainly b/c I yell at who ever is in the room when I take a bad beat, helps with the whole tilting thing.

[Sponger.]

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She doesn't like it, I don't care, I play whenever I want, wherever I want, and as much as I want, even if this ends up breaking up our relationship.

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Amend that to say:

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She doesn't like it, I kinda care, I try and play as much as possible while still hanging out with her every day, if we break up because of it, its her fault, bitch

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and I'm good.

[renodoc]

Me: "I'm going to play a tourney tonight, I might be home late"

The Wife: "That's OK honey, if you're home late it means you're winning."

She's the best. /images/graemlins/heart.gif /images/graemlins/heart.gif /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[feelixthegreek]

We just had to cancel a planned trip to Vegas (logistical problems) and she was more upset than I was!!

[TomG]

Ugh, it looks like my girlfriend is the least supportive/understanding of the group thus far. She hates poker and everything related to it. Fair enough, I can't expect my significant other to take an interest in everything I do. So I never talk about it with her and I only play it when we're away from each other. However I still receive frowns of disapproval whenever she overhears conversation between my friends and I about it. She sees it as addictive in nature and that any time spent playing is harmful regardless of whether I win or lose. Initially I tried to share my long term records and statistics with her to reassure I'm not going to bankrupt myself, but that only made her more worried because of the time and effort that I obviously put into keeping accurate records. Don't get the wrong impression--she's an otherwise wonderful girlfriend but when it comes to poker she's a nightmare.

[feelixthegreek]

How much of your profits do you redirect her way?

[TomG]

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How much of your profits do you redirect her way?

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I do take her out more than usual but since I never discuss my poker bankroll with her, she just thinks it's money from my day time job. I could buy her a big ticket item with the profits, but I'm afraid it could backfire like the time when I tried to show her my win/loss records.

[dengar]

My girlfriend doesn't understand it. She think that I am losing all of this money because she will hear me talking to friends about losing 30 or 40 bucks in a session. She doesn't understand that most of the time I make that back and that I am acquiring a bonus on top of it.

[SamG]

[x] She understands and is supportive as long as I make time for her, too

[GoblinMason (Craig)]

She's quite supportive. At first she was worried when I would tell her I lost 10-20 playing .5/1. Now when I tell her I dropped a g last night, she handles it better than I do.

When I'm in a bad swing she reminds me about the long run. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

-Criag

[Boltsfan1992]

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she's pushing me to quit my job and play poker...

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In order to sway me on our upcoming move to Arizona, my wife said, "Vegas is like five hours away, and when I get my degree and make $100,000/year, you can quit your job and play poker full time - live and/or online. Think about it!"

She had me at, "Hello." /images/graemlins/laugh.gif

PB

[KKbluff]

I once told my girlfriend i could buy her a nice engagment ring with my bankroll and still have money left over... Ever since that moment all of her poker complaints have ceased. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[Wetdog]

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she's pushing me to quit my job and play poker...

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In order to sway me on our upcoming move to Arizona, my wife said, "Vegas is like five hours away, and when I get my degree and make $100,000/year, you can quit your job and play poker full time - live and/or online. Think about it!"

She had me at, "Hello." /images/graemlins/laugh.gif

PB

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/images/graemlins/heart.gif Does she have a sister?

Actually I'm married (it'll be 30 years in June) and the wife enjoys it as much as I do. She plays free tables during the day and I play at nite, mostly .5/1 limit. During my recent downswing she hasn't been too crappy about it (how much did you lose last nite? are you busted yet?) But I told her to expect that when I was hotter than hell before that.

[Homer]

Mine hated it when I first started, gradually softened her stance and now wants me to turn pro (I don't want to).

[climber]

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http://www.danielsweet.com/forums/avatar.jpg

What kind of a lousy Go match is this?

[/ QUOTE ]

One of the first games i ever palyed on a full board on a streetcorner in China with some out of work drifter guy. He gave me 6 stones and I needed them all. Funny to look back on though.

[Sheriff Fatman]

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I once told my girlfriend i could buy her a nice engagment ring with my bankroll and still have money left over... Ever since that moment all of her poker complaints have ceased. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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Dammit, you mean I could have gotten away with saying I COULD buy an engagement ring without actually buying the damn thing.

Nice hand, sir!

Sheriff

[Mackas]

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hmmmm...

not a lot of options for us heterosexual girls in this poll...

even though I probably anyways fall into that category that Shoe mentioned, "I am destined to be single forever because I play poker online all day and never get out of the house" /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

Check out this thread;

Any single females who love poker want to meet up for a drink? (http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=2272664&page=0&view=colla psed&sb=5&o=14&fpart=1)

just make sure you tell a friend where you're going and don't let yourself be guided towards the trunk of the car.

[Mizzles]

I'm rather surprised that 10 of you (so far) have wives whos favorite game is $1000/2000 7-stud HI LOW

Where do you find such dream women?

[Reef]

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I'm rather surprised that 10 of you (so far) have wives whos favorite game is $1000/2000 7-stud HI LOW

Where do you find such dream women?

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in their imaginations

[AAmaz0n]

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I'm rather surprised that 10 of you (so far) have wives whos favorite game is $1000/2000 7-stud HI LOW

Where do you find such dream women?

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Two plausible explainations:

1) One lucky man with multiple personality disorder who keeps forgetting that the others already voted.

2) Several guys who are smoking P.O.T.

Shauna

[arizona]

I dated a girl I was absolutely crazy about and she dumped me because she said she could never get used to me playing poker for a living. She said it would be fine if I was a garbage man making $10 an hour, but making way more playing poker was no good. No offense to any garbage men out there, by the way. God forbid I do something I love and can make a decent living at it. I used every logical argument I could think of, but it didn't do any good. Sigh. This was months ago and I'm still bitter about it.

[HoldingFolding]

I gave her a present. Not quite sure how much to put on it each month.
http://www.fortunelounge.com/images/payment/neteller.jpg

[Arnfinn Madsen]

Not to provoke envy, but surprisingly she is proud of it. As is my father in law.

[dabluebery]

I think I have to change my answer from "She plays occasionally" to "Her bb is 3.5/100...."

My wife took $350 off the 1/2 NL game at the Borgata in about two hours over the weekend, about 12 hours after she won a 45 person, $100 buyin tournament at the TAJ for an $1845 first prize.

And I had to grind out $80 at the $6/$12 game. But I'm not jealous.

[steamboatin]

Take one of her buddies along on the trip. We always bring one of the MRS's ess? buddies along, they go to shows, hit the SPA whatever and I can play poker and don't have to worry about the MRS wandering around alone.

Now if I could just figure out how to get low lmit poker to keep up with the cost of the slot machines, I would be fine.

[PollyEmory]

I met my spouse on a poker forum. 'Nuff said. /images/graemlins/laugh.gif

--Polly

[tagtastic]

My significant other (live-in GF) doesn't really like my poker playing. Honestly she'd prefer that I work at McDonald's for minimum wage than play at home (I suppose if I was making huge money that would change.. like >$100k/yr).

I've done quite well, and currently it's my only source of income. I graduated from college a year ago and have been reluctant to find a job (not to mention the job market for my major around my location is pretty bad right now). It pays the bills plus alot more.

My friends seem supportive of my success, although only one of my closest friends really understands the way it works (the game & financially) - some simply dismiss as "gambling". My parents are somewhat supportive.. They'd prefer me to have a real career type job - but I believe my Dad thinks its pretty cool as he often brags to his buddies about my success.

Seriously, what young guy in America wouldn't want to have a stay-at-home, set your own hours, fairly high wage job that involved playing a game online? Not many that I know. However, I don't view poker as a game really - in the way that I don't particularly enjoy it like a game (unless I'm hitting some great cards of course /images/graemlins/laugh.gif). As many of you know, poker at any serious level for money that's important to you can be very stressful - and of course there are no guarantees any given day, or week that you'll turn a profit or break even (but, the odds always prevail in the long run).

My GF and I have been through this conversation a few times before, but it's not going to change her overall opinion. She'd rather I work a "real" job that she could tell her friends, co-workers and relatives without hesitation (although one of her friends thinks it's really cool). Such is the life of a poker player.

[Jim Kuhn]

I had to buy another computer so she can play right next to me.

Thank you,

Jim Kuhn
Catfish4u
/images/graemlins/spade.gif /images/graemlins/diamond.gif /images/graemlins/club.gif /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[kdog]

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I had to buy another computer so she can play right next to me

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Not sure if that's +EV Jim. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[Psyonic]

You forgot an option for "I don't have a significant other, but the chick that slept over last night doesn't seem to mind." Seriously though, I don't mean to sound like an ass, but not all of us are into the committed lifestyle. Then again, maybe its not an option because I don't have to worry about random girls think... oh well, thats my two cents.

[Mizzles]

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Seriously, what young guy in America wouldn't want to have a stay-at-home, set your own hours, fairly high wage job that involved playing a game online? Not many that I know. However, I don't view poker as a game really - in the way that I don't particularly enjoy it like a game

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EXACTLY except for the last "I don't enjoy it" part -- I LOVE IT. It's like a dream job! Yet women and even others have a hard time comprehending this unless you're on the "inside" and really understand it.

[ricochet420]

Well, the truth is my option isn't up there, and I kinda need to get this off my chest. ( I AM prepared)

I've been playing poker for a bit now as my sole source of income. Taking home more than my wife actually. We talked about it after I injured my back and couldn't work for a while. She said it was cool. Now it isn't! She basically said if I want to stay married to her (we have 3 children) I have to go and get a "real job" where I actually leave and go to a freaking office. WTF? I am making my mortgage payment with this income, it's not HUGE money, but sh1t we have a nice house in the burbs... Anyway, this sucks and I had to vent. Don't know how much I'll be playing anymore, if even at all. My family is obviously the most important thing in the world to me, and I won't sacrafice it for anything, but who the h3ll is she to force me to do this? Thanks for reading. Flame on....

[William]

I once got head while multi tabling"?

Only once? /images/graemlins/confused.gif

You poor thing ! /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[phuc]

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You missed

She understands it’s a hobby so she doesn’t mind, but wouldnt like me to play in all our free time so I limit my play.

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This is the one I fall under...and I would think that a lot of others do as well.

[Mizzles]

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She basically said if I want to stay married to her (we have 3 children) I have to go and get a "real job" where I actually leave and go to a freaking office. WTF?

[/ QUOTE ]

What is her reasoning behind saying this? Could you explain her thought process?

[EddieMoney22]

My wife was very worried at first, but after a couple of small wins I and cashing some out just to keep her from upset about it. I hit 2nd in a multi table game for $6300 the game lasted until 4:00 AM, she woke up when I went to bed so I told her. the next day I get home from work exhausted and fell asleep on the couch. she walked in from work woke me up and told me to go play poker. Now its a year later and she im still playing with out one negative word from her.

[JunkHead]

MOnday night, after the kids were in bed, my wife and I were sitting in front of the TV when she turned to me and said, "Is there any poker on TV tonight?" God, I love that woman!

We were on a family vacation and I got a no limit hold 'em game together, and she really enjoyed playing. Not saying she's caught the bug, but she is interested and doesn't mind me playing.

JunkHead

[Mizzles]

All these stories sound so great but I have a hard time a woman could be thrilled about her man playing poker all the time, especially if it takes time away from the relationship.

The last 2 posters who said their wives tell them to play -- (junkhead and eddiemoney) -- how many hrs a day do you guys play and what are you wives doing while you are playing?

[JunkHead]

My wife never tells me to play. I sit with my laptop and play while she knits. Now, don't get the wrong impression. We are not an old married couple, despite the knitting.

She enjoys watching poker on TV with me. She even asks great questions. For example, the last WPT we watched with Danny Nguyen (sp) and The Statue, my wife noticed The Statue not playing many hands. My wife said, "Won't the other players notice that he rarely plays any hands and know that when he does it's probably a very good hand?"

What a woman...

JunkHead

[MicroBob]

That really sucks.

I can see where this comes from though as my ex-wife (whom I am still friends with) would likely have had almost a severe reaction if I was playing poker while we were still together.

My current GF is cool with it and sees that I make more money at this then at other employment opportunities.
She sees it even more vividly now because I took her with me on the party-poker cruise...and would be taking her to Vegas for the WSOP if she was available.
I came damn close to winning an Aruba satellite the other night on UB and she was aware of that too.


Her parents are another story however.
They don't necessarily disapprove of me because they see that I make their daughter happy.
But they are traditional latino-catholics from South America and they envisioned their daughter being with a doctor or lawyer or something to that effect (she is a nurse...her dad is a doctor).
since they don't speak english (and I don't habla espanol) I can't explain much about it to them and I'm sure she only does a so-so job at it.

Her mom thought I had some sort of 'addiction' at first but now understands that I really do pay the bills by doing this AND that I'm getting quite good at it (with the cruise and WSOP trips as evidence).
but it still seems like VERY high-risk without being exactly the most noble of professionals to them and I can hardly blame them for thinking this.


When we first started dating 2 years ago I was 'between jobs' and just learning how to play so there's no way she could have envisioned where my 'career' has gone in the past couple years.

[kdog]

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All these stories sound so great but I have a hard time a woman could be thrilled about her man playing poker all the time, especially if it takes time away from the relationship

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Bingo! Mine never minded that I played and still doesn't, but 4 tabling 5000 hands a week, reading and posting here, a full time job, etc., etc., etc. doesn't leave a lot of time for the significant other.

This point was brought home to me in a rather unpleasant manner last week and I came thisclose to losing a 15 year relationship with a woman I truly love.

We're working it out now but I think I'll be passing on the less attractive bonii for now.On the up side my bonii will be getting more of a workout than usual. /images/graemlins/blush.gif

[ricochet420]

Well, mostly she just says I need to get out of the house and "go" to a job. Poker is not a "respectable" profession. All that crapola. I married into a fairly conservative and religious family. Needless to say I am neither. All be it she sure hasn't complained about how the money spends. I haven't had a "real job" in about 3 years. /images/graemlins/mad.gif /images/graemlins/frown.gif

Edit;
she says It's ok if I play in my spare time as a hobby or whatever, but it's gonna be pretty EFFED to bring home 3-4x my "real job's" paycheck from a "hobby". I just don't get it. /images/graemlins/confused.gif

[ricochet420]

YES, YES IT DOES!!![ QUOTE ]
That really sucks.

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[XChamp]

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You missed

She understands it’s a hobby so she doesn’t mind, but wouldnt like me to play in all our free time so I limit my play.

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This is the option I wanted to choose.

[HSB]

She wants me to quit my job and do it professionally.

[Lawman]

She doesn't mind poker, just me playing it, when I should be spending quality time with her. My family think I am on a downward "gambling" spiral which will end with me losing my house (I've got some way to go yet as I still play 0.5/1 limit and even I am not that bad!).

[Trouthunter]

Losing you house at .50/1 does seem a little unlikely, doesn't it? My mom is worried about me, but I understands that I have a total investment of about $100.00 and all the other money was built from that. Even if I went flat busto on my entire bankroll, I'd only be down an actual $100.00.

M wife was very skeptical of the whole thing but figured we wouldn't be bankrupt if I lost the $100.00 (God knows I've blown more than that on stupider things than poker!!). After three weeks of playing, I showed her the balance in my account and she hasn't said a word since. I think if it really started dominating my life, she would not be cool with it, but I try to make sure I spend more time with her and my family than I do with the cards, and it works out.

[MrBlueNose]

My wife is fine with it. I even have my own office that I go to during the day to play, and also work on the affiliate side of things. I feel this makes things a lot better, and it also makes me more productive. I also have a schedule I stick to:

Mondays: Day Off.
Tuesday: Poker between 6am & 6pm. Night off.
Wednesday: Poker between 6am & 6pm. Night off.
Thursday: Poker between 6am & 2pm. Play at night.
Friday: Day off. I will either play from 8pm-3am tonight, or tomorrow.
Saturday: Same as Friday. I take one night off a week.
Sunday: Varies.

It's an easy schedule, doesn't mess with my time at home etc.

[danzasmack]

I'm surprised there was no:

"SHE MINDS WHAT I TELL HER TO MIND"
or
"OMG BAD BEAT MY WIFE LEFT ME BECAUSE I WAS IN A TOURNAMENT AND DROPPED THE BABY WHEN I LOST AA TO AA ALL IN ON LAST HAND WTF WINNER GOT 500FPP!!"
or my personal favorite
"She doesn't mind cuz then im in the chatroom a lot. I don't know, I'm getting pretty PO'd cuz she hasn't sent me a full body shot yet...we're pretty serious though"

[Hendricks433]

Im only 19 and dont have a gf or anything but my parents hate it. I was home 4 -tabling and my mom was like what are you doing? your playing 4 GAMES!! wich really isnt alot. And she keeps telling me I need a job with more integrity. But Im in college and it more than pays the bills quite easily.

[Fishy McDonk]

Why tell her?

Just say you work online and when she comes in the room while you're playing, hit your hotkey that brings up a spreadsheet.

[El Ishmael]

Stop using the term significant other. Just say [censored] husband. Gays and women do not post on this forum.

[Mustbeblufin]

My wife likes it much better after she got a $2300 couch last month. I guess money can buy happiness! :-) She's probably thinking of what she can get next when I play.

[Mizzles]

big time BUMP for some more votes

[Synergistic Explosions]

She left me when I started to play on Gaypoker.com.

[Ali shmali]

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I am posting this to get a general idea of how our GF or wives feel about us playing. In my last relationship she absolutely hated poker playing, just couldn't stand it. Is this the norm? Do most women see poker as taking away from or seriously impeding the man/women relationship?

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Girls don't play poker? You need another option in that poll.

[destroBU]

It's amazing how fast some women will change their tune when they start getting to spend the profits.

[Mizzles]

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Girls don't play poker? You need another option in that poll.

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Where have you been? Dinner Friday night?

[blackjack777]

Put it this way, even though I make a nice side income off it and have for two years, when I told my wife it was over, she said, "Thank God!"

[canada_dry]

My girlfriend hates it when/if I put long hours in. If I'm winning, then it seems to justify the long hours to a certain extent. If i'm losing, then the hours have to stop, maybe even poker altogether.

Cash is king. Show a profit and you can get away with more hours playing. Start losing and look out...

It's hard to balance both woman and gambling, unless she too gambles, in which case you are either lucky or in big trouble.

[blackjack777]

Another thing, it makes no sense to me, but whenever I cash out, I give my wife 10 percent.

It's hers to do what she wants. Now that pokers dead, I am guessing she will miss that money.

[kevin017]

my gf doesn't mind too much but i think it bothers her if she gets ignored. i don't think anyone here can deny its a bit addicting, and i think she recognizes that too. in general though i think she likes money, and i do what i can to not play when it'll bug her, so its no big deal, i'd say she's 85% supportive.

but between my mom and brother i have my hands full, with him insisting i will "regress to the mean" (wtf?) and her telling me to cash everything out before i lose it b/c i bet 50 bucks on a football game....

[Mizzles]

I'm finally dating a girl now who loves poker!!! wooohoo!

[ChipFerFree]

You forgot: She loves when I play and win -- encourages me to continue -- yet hates when I lose and tells me I'm an addict with big problems...

[mikewpu04]

I guess I am lucky. She enjoys playing 2/4 in the casino, while lets me play NL or whatever I want. She only gets annoyed if I go too often, but even then says I am an adult. But usually, she's right in the casino with me, fooling all the old guys. Flips over a boat, "Is this good?" haha

[QTip]

After you've been with a woman for a while, she'll hate anything that's not spending time with her.

[ChipFerFree]

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After you've been with a woman for a while, she'll hate anything that's not spending time with her.

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And everything that is....