miami32
02-01-2006, 01:12 AM
Okay this is an odd post. I am a 26 year old male. I would say I'm pretty good looking. Through out life I have dated some very attractive women, and one or two gorgeous girls.
Over the past two years I have played poker pretty much full time. Since then my social skills have gone pretty much into shell. I very much still think I'm a very funny charming guy. Yet I lack confidence and I couldn't even explain to you why. This past week I was at the Borgata for the WPT event and I ended up meeting up with this chick I know. We wemt out a couple times and things went great yet she was constantly on my mind. We did hook up, but I think it could have gone much better. If I would have felt more comfortable with myself.
It's strange, like I used to never concern myself with these things. I always assumed girls came a dime a dozen. I haven't been a serious relationship in say 6 months or so and since I've been playing I haven't exactly been the social butterfly.
The strange part is I try and relate this to poker. Like I feel like my confidence is down because I haven't met a hot chick recently and just slept with her. Hence a "big win."
I look back at my past and I realize that my main successes with women were mainly due to my confidence and the fact that I was very comfortable with myself.
Now I feel like I don't have that at all. I'm very unsure of myself. Do other people have these problems? I'm still the same guy on the outside, yet I'm having issues. Any suggestions on how I should deal with this?
I think I'm going to start working out full time again and eating better. I think that well help some. I have always felt the working out is a big step ladder to confidence.
Any other suggestions?
Over the past two years I have played poker pretty much full time. Since then my social skills have gone pretty much into shell. I very much still think I'm a very funny charming guy. Yet I lack confidence and I couldn't even explain to you why. This past week I was at the Borgata for the WPT event and I ended up meeting up with this chick I know. We wemt out a couple times and things went great yet she was constantly on my mind. We did hook up, but I think it could have gone much better. If I would have felt more comfortable with myself.
It's strange, like I used to never concern myself with these things. I always assumed girls came a dime a dozen. I haven't been a serious relationship in say 6 months or so and since I've been playing I haven't exactly been the social butterfly.
The strange part is I try and relate this to poker. Like I feel like my confidence is down because I haven't met a hot chick recently and just slept with her. Hence a "big win."
I look back at my past and I realize that my main successes with women were mainly due to my confidence and the fact that I was very comfortable with myself.
Now I feel like I don't have that at all. I'm very unsure of myself. Do other people have these problems? I'm still the same guy on the outside, yet I'm having issues. Any suggestions on how I should deal with this?
I think I'm going to start working out full time again and eating better. I think that well help some. I have always felt the working out is a big step ladder to confidence.
Any other suggestions?